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July 17, 2020

How To Forgive An Unfaithful Wife After The Affair

I know this might sound hard to believe, but most wives don’t plan to cheat. However, for nearly 1 in 5 couples these days, infidelity happens.

Affairs happen for a whole multitude of reasons, although that doesn’t justify anyone’s behavior.

If you love your wife and want to forgive her someday, though, it’s essential to recognize that it takes a whole chain of events for cheating to unfold, and frequently couples miss out on 99.9% of the warning signs.

Just because you missed the problems the first time, that doesn’t mean you can’t still repair what once was broken and move on to live in a stable, healthy marriage for many years to come.

You just need the right tools to help you process your pain and move forward with your life. Furthermore, you and your wife both need the tools to love each other and prevent affairs from ever tainting your relationship again.

How do you get over your wife cheating on you?

Moving past an affair is a difficult concept for most spouses, but especially for husbands. In fact, New York-based psychiatrist Mark Epstein told Web MD that the idea of a faithless wife sends many husbands over the edge.

If your wife cheated, you might feel like you’ll never be able to wipe those images from your head. However, most experts say that if you can talk through the infidelity and ask what happened and why, you’ll have the best chance of working through it.

Once you know the whole story, work through your emotions. You probably feel shocked, confused, sad, or even angry — all of these feelings are valid.

It will take time to work through these feelings and may even feel like you’re grieving the loss of your marriage. That’s OK.

While you work through your feelings, though, avoid seeking revenge or pointing fingers. However, the experts at Verywell Mind stress that these tactics will keep you trapped in your anger and ultimately stunt your healing. Instead, focus inward and take care of yourself. 

You may also feel like the affair is a reflection of your lack of manhood. It’s important to consider what was going on in the relationship leading up to the infidelity without placing judgment solely on yourself. Often a multitude of factors leads to an affair; not just one.

Finally, seeking help from a couple’s counselor is one of the most important things you can do to help you work through your feelings and decide if you can save your marriage.

A therapist serves as a neutral party who can help you process what happened and provide insight.

A couple’s counselor will take in all of the information provided and explain what you can do to work through it or how you can go about separating your lives.

Working through infidelity takes time and energy, but you can get over the affair with help if you're committed to your marriage.

How long does it take to forgive a cheating spouse?

As you begin the process of working through your emotions about the affair, you’re probably wondering how long it will take to forgive your wife.

While some people estimate that it takes the average man up to 2 years to forgive a cheating wife, most experts agree that everyone forgives at different times. In fact, the forgiveness process varies based on these factors:

  • The emotional connection you two share
  • The amount of remorse your wife displays
  • The severity and duration of the affair
  • Past incidents of infidelity
  • Your willingness to work things through with a couple’s counselor

Furthermore, Savannah Ellis of The Infidelity Recovery Institute says that every partner who has been cheated on works through a set of 5 stages — similar to the stages of grief — after learning about an affair. 

Stage 1: Discovery

The circumstances surrounding how you learn about the affair definitely impact the amount of time it takes you to forgive your wife. 

How did you learn about the affair? Is this the first time your wife has been unfaithful? 

The answers to these questions will influence your feelings and steer the rest of the forgiveness process, as will your ability to make sense of the situation.

Stage 2: Grieving

In this stage, you work through your emotions surrounding the affair. Depending on how much you obsess over the affair and worry, this stage can take a bit of time to work through. 

However, if you seek help from a couple’s counselor or individual therapist, you can work through emotions more quickly. 

Also, your spouse will also experience her own grieving process as she ends the affair and tries to fill the void. If not handled appropriately, this can lead to continued infidelity which will add years to both of your recovery.

Stage 3: Acceptance

In this third stage, you and your spouse finally come to terms with what happened. 

In some cases, acceptance means recognizing that a marriage is over and starting the process of separation. In other instances, acceptance means making peace with the affair so you can move forward.

Although it’s tempting to hold a grudge or seek revenge as you work through your emotions, this will cause you to stall out and never reach acceptance. This step is critical if you want to save your marriage, so it’s important to be mindful of your thoughts.

While acceptance takes time and a considerable amount of energy, many couples find this “clean slate” to be helpful in revitalizing their marriage.

Stage 4: Reconnection

Once you and your partner have accepted the affair and worked through some of your emotions, you can start trying to reconnect. However, reconnecting doesn’t mean just resuming sex — you must also work on rebuilding your emotional connection as well.

Furthermore, you and your wife must break old habits that didn’t work and establish new ones as you reconnect. This means learning effective communication skills, ways to show each other love, and preferences when it comes to sex and intimacy. This will take time, but it’s worth it!

Stage 5: Maintenance

Don’t be shocked if it takes a while for you and your wife to reach this phase, especially if she was cheating for a while before you found out. However, this final phase is where you begin living in your new reality after the affair.

Can a marriage really survive infidelity in the long term?

When you marry your partner, you usually say the words “to death do us part.” However, many couples find it difficult to move past infidelity and salvage their marriage after a spouse cheats.

Ask most psychologists, though, and you’ll learn that nearly any marriage can survive an affair — if both partners are willing to put in the time and energy to make sure their marriage remains successful in the aftermath of infidelity.

While we don’t see it happen in many movies, many real-life couples find ways to keep their marriage alive after infidelity and actually make it thrive. 

In a 2017 episode of The Today Show with Megyn Kelly, one such couple shared their story of overcoming infidelity and reigniting their marriage. In this video, you can learn what Tertia and Michael Cain did to save their marriage after Michael had an affair:

The key to making sure your marriage survives after infidelity is by rebuilding trust. Once you recommit to each other and self-improve, you can work through the affair and build a strong enough relationship to survive anything… even a cheating wife.

What are the chances that your wife cheats again?

Although we all know the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater,” couple’s therapist and author Tammy Nelson says that isn’t always the case. She argues that once people feel the guilt of cheating, they’re often willing to work towards change.

While this may be the case, a recent study published by the Archives of Sexual Behavior found that people who cheated in one relationship are three times as likely to cheat again in future relationships.

In fact, out of the participants in this study, nearly half of them fully admitted to cheating more than once.

This study doesn’t mean that partners don’t feel remorse for cheating, though. It merely shows people's propensity to cheat a second time if they already cheated to begin with. 

However, if you want to ensure that your wife never cheats again, you’ll need to commit to putting lots of effort into your marriage and asking her to do the same. Most couples let their emotional connection whither over time, and this often leads to infidelity. 

If you both approach the affair with an open mind and willingness to work, it’s entirely possible to heal the relationship and make it cheat-proof.

Why do some women cheat and blame their husband when confronted?

According to relationship and infidelity expert Sheri Meyers, it’s not uncommon for women to cheat and later blame their husband when confronted. In fact, most women cite a lack of emotional intimacy for their rationale for an affair.

Women (and sometimes even men) blame their cheating partner for a multitude of reasons. Many people try to avoid feelings of guilt by pointing fingers elsewhere for their sinful behavior for starters. After all, blaming someone else makes it feel less horrible in the short-term.

Furthermore, cheaters try to minimize their infidelity to make it easier to cope with the shame that usually comes when their partner discovers the affair.

It’s the same reason why people downplay their drinking habits or other vices. When we minimize our flaws, it makes them feel less horrible.

Finally, some wives blame their husbands when confronted because they simply feel caught off-guard and don’t know how to respond. By placing the blame somewhere else, they can take some time to collect their thoughts and really evaluate why they cheated in the first place.

Whether it’s a one-night stand or a full-fledged affair, it’s never fun to find out that your wife is cheating. Regardless of what emotions come up, though, know that every single one of your thoughts and feelings is justified given the situation.

Working towards forgiveness will take some time, and you may not be ready yet. That’s OK! Don’t rush it!

When you’re ready, though, sit down with your wife and talk things through. Try to listen and understand the affair from her perspective, then share your thoughts and feelings in a calm, effective manner. 

You may decide to work things out and even seek professional help — there’s nothing wrong with that. 

Just know that whatever happens, you’re strong and able to withstand it. And, with any luck, your marriage is able to withstand this trial by fire, too.

July 17, 2020

The Keys To Breaking A Porn Addiction For Good

We've all heard that old saying "you never know what goes on behind closed doors," but I don't think that we stop to really think about what that may entail.

For over 70 percent of American men between the ages of 18 and 49, these secrets behind closed doors include watching porn regularly.

Some might say, "So he watches a little porn. What's the big deal?" Believe it or not, that big deal includes so much more than most of us can even imagine.

The porn industry is booming, but meanwhile, long-term relationships are coming apart at the seams in large numbers, and more and more men are being called out for issues like sexual assault and sexual crimes with minors.

While most people don't see it, porn addiction is causing serious issues for many men and women across the world, and it's time that we start talking about what porn addiction looks like and how people who struggle with this addiction can get the help they need.

What is porn addiction?

The internet makes it easier for us to access everything, including pornographic images and porn videos. In fact, with a quick Google search and a few clicks, you can spend hours checking out porn just like you’d binge-watching a Netflix series.

But where is the line between viewing porn for enjoyment and full-blown porn addiction?

Definitions vary, but in the most basic form, “porn addiction” means a person becomes so emotionally dependent on pornography that it disrupts their day-to-day activities and relationships.

In fact, some doctors view porn addiction as a subcategory of hypersexual disorder — a general term that includes many other types of sex addiction. Other manifestations of the hypersexual disorder include excessive masturbation or frequent use of sex workers.

It’s important to remember that there’s a difference between intense interests in various things and actual addiction, though.

An addiction actually changes the way your brain operates, which causes you to continue using the substance or engaging in the interest even if it causes harm.

When you suffer from an addiction, you feel compelled to continue using addictive substances or activity, and discontinuing use causes you physical and emotional distress.

This is because addictive activities like porn provide you with a large amount of dopamine — the brain chemical that helps you feel pleasure.

Over time, your body produces less dopamine naturally and relies on your addiction to feel that same rush.

What are the signs of a porn addict?

Although porn addiction is not directly addressed in the latest edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, numerous recent studies indicate that heavy porn use might be a sign of addiction.

What’s more, experts say that the same brain areas that activate for drug or alcohol addicts also “light up” for men and women who view pornography consistently.

If you are concerned about your porn habits, you may want to look for these warning signs of porn addiction. You may have a problem with porn if:

  • You always think about porn even when you aren’t watching it.
  • You view porn at work or in other public locations even though someone may see you.
  • You feel shame when you watch porn.
  • You continue to watch pornographic videos or view pornographic photos even after witnessing the harm it does to your relationships with others.
  • You no longer feel sexual satisfaction with partners unless porn is involved.
  • You hide your porn habits from your spouse, partner, or other family members.
  • You feel angry when someone asks you to stop looking at porn or interrupts your porn viewing.
  • You make more demands during sex and feel frustrated when your partner cannot meet these demands in the way you want.
  • You lose track of time when you watch porn.
  • You can’t seem to quit watching porn even when actively trying to stop.

Why is pornography so addictive?

Current research shows that somewhere between 5-8 percent of adults around the world deal with porn addictions. Considering that Pornhub received over 30 billion hits in 2018 alone, those numbers aren’t surprising.

But what makes porn so irresistible and addictive? In this video, Mitchell Moffit and Gregory Brown of AsapSCIENCE explain how pornography impacts your brain in such an addictive way:

In the most basic sense, porn addiction starts in the same way as drug addictions. When you initially enjoy a positive pornography-viewing experience, you look for ways to repeat that sense of pleasure and enjoyment. 

Over time, you may face uncontrollable urges to view porn so that you can feel sexually satisfied. In fact, you may eventually feel like porn is the only way you can obtain that same level of satisfaction. 

Addiction expert Dr. Adi Jaffe says that internet porn and sexual gratification positively reinforce each other, which then causes your urges to feel more powerful and more necessary as you continue to use porn. 

Furthermore, adults can easily access pornography with the internet. In fact, pulling up porn videos online is often requires far less effort than it takes to convince your partner to have sex. 

Internet porn addiction can also quickly spiral as the user develops a tolerance to the material they consume. 

As this tolerance develops, addicts may search for more deviant material to achieve the same high. This can cause a dangerous cycle where porn causes problems in relationships, which then causes the addicted person to turn to porn even more and therefore reinforces the addiction.

Sadly, porn addicts don’t receive the help they need because they don’t fully recognize their porn addiction as a problem. 

If you avoid help, your porn addiction may even spiral as you use porn as an escape from secondary symptoms like depression, loneliness, and relationship problems. Thus, the addiction remains untreated and causes the spiral of addiction to continue.

How does it ruin my current and future relationships?

People who battle porn addiction often brush it off and say it’s “no big deal.” However, a porn addiction can actually cause harm to your current and future intimate relationships in numerous ways.

First and foremost, healthy relationships are built on trust. When you start secretly engaging in sexual acts through the use of pornography, you break that bubble of trust with your partner or spouse. Once trust is broken, it takes lots of time and energy to heal your relationship (if it can even be salvaged at all). 

What’s more, pornography creates unrealistic expectations about your spouse and sexual behavior. In fact, studies show that the more porn someone watches, the less happy they feel within their marriage or committed relationship. 

While sexual relationships should be mutually satisfying, porn only provides self-gratification and can even cause partners who watch porn to take on a dominating role during sex that can leave the other sexual partner feeling scared and confused.

Inversely, men who consume large amounts of porn can also battle impotence or a lack of sexual attraction to their partner. Some men who battle porn addictions even find that they can't even "get turned on" unless they watch porn.

A 2013 survey of sex therapists in Europe revealed some startling results on porn’s impact on relationships. In the survey, an overwhelming 86 percent of these therapists noticed that porn addictions harmed intimate relationships. 

Most sex therapists also claim that porn increases men’s sexual expectations, while negatively impacting a women’s confidence during sex.

These effects can cause performance anxiety or even sexual dissatisfaction for both partners in a relationship, which can wear down a relationship over time.

According to Robert Weiss PhD, LCSW, porn addiction can lead to severe consequences such as:

  • The breakdown of previously-existing relationships and the inability to form new intimate relationships
  • Feelings of shame, isolation, depression, and loneliness can further break down primary and even secondary relationships
  • New addictions to substances that can further complicate relationships
  • Career losses
  • Financial and legal trouble

How do I stop being addicted to porn and get the help I need?

Although breaking your porn addiction takes serious willpower and hard work, some people are able to kick the habit on their own. If you want to try to pull the plug on pornography on your own, start by:

  • Deleting electronic porn and bookmarks from all your devices
  • Discarding any hard copies of porn you own, such as DVDs or magazines
  • Asking a friend or family member to install anti-porn software on your electronic devices
  • Finding new hobbies or other distraction techniques to use when urges hit
  • Asking someone to hold you accountable and check in about your porn use
  • Keeping a journal to track setbacks, victories, and alternate activities

Many porn addicts feel too ashamed, embarrassed, and humiliated to ask for help at first. Like any other addiction, though, recovery from your porn use often requires professional help and interventions.

You can start by seeking help from a mental health counselor or trained addiction treatment specialist.

These professionals will often use specific therapy modalities to help you work through your addiction, such as cognitive behavior therapy, mindfulness-based therapies like dialectical behavior therapy or acceptance and commitment therapy, and psychodynamic therapy.

These various therapies serve two main functions. For starters, they help you change your thought patterns and rewire your brain.

With modalities like cognitive behavioral therapy and dialectical behavior therapy, you learn ways to stop your thoughts and start using replacement behaviors when urges strike.

Additionally, these therapy methods help you discover your addiction's root cause, which can stem from chemical imbalances, childhood trauma, or countless other physical or emotional causes.

In addition to individual therapy, many addicts find 12-step groups and other support networks highly beneficial. For porn addiction specific groups, you can attend Sex Addicts Anonymous or Porn Addicts Anonymous.

Keep in mind that the road to recovery is hard and that relapse is common in early treatment and recovery.

If a relapse happens, don't look at it as a failure, but rather as a misstep or small mistake. Having accountability and a healthy support system can help you through these trying times in your recovery.

Despite the messages that mainstream media and the general public send, porn addiction is a very serious issue that can lead to long-term problems.

However, if you're ready to recognize your porn use as a problem and take active steps to change, there are many treatment options out there for you.

Like any other recovery, the path to breaking your porn addiction isn't a straight line, and you will encounter many struggles along the way.

Breaking free of your reliance on porn will open many doors for you and, eventually, allow you to connect intimately with a partner and find love again.

July 17, 2020

How To Know If You Need Marriage Counseling and What To Do Next

During my freshman year of college, I met my now-husband, and we instantly hit it off.

We soon found ourselves spending hours at a time together, and we told each other everything. People would often say that we had the “perfect relationship” and they loved seeing us so happy.

A few years ago, though, things started to feel “off.” Between work demands and two children always under our feet, we stopped connecting in the same ways as we did during our college years.

I felt scared, worried, and uncertain about our future, but I didn’t know where to get help.

Out of desperation one night, I reached out to the best resource I knew: Google.

Within the first few clicks, I realized something profound. Many couples feel like their relationship loses its spark over time.

To get it back, I also learned that all I needed to do was get my husband to agree to try something new and different: marriage counseling.

Maybe you’re like me and concerned that your marriage's flame is dying out, or perhaps something recently happened in your relationship and you’re desperately trying to find a way to fix that problem and get back to what feels “normal.” 

But does marriage counseling really work? And how do you know if it’s the right answer for your marriage? Let’s find out!

What does marriage counseling consist of?

In a nutshell, marriage counseling helps married couples (or even those in a long-term domestic partnership) resolve conflicts and improve their romantic relationship. This type of therapy is often provided by a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). 

Unlike individual therapists, these counselors are trained to work with individuals through a relationship or family dynamic lens specifically. 

Although individual marriage counselors may approach couples in different ways, Talkspace therapist Ivanna Colangelo says that most clinicians help married couples in the following ways:

  1. Marriage counselors will help couples work through specific problems such as infidelity, lack of intimacy, addiction, or parenting problems.
  2. Marriage counseling focuses on treating the relationship between two partners, not each individual as a separate being.
  3. Sessions will involve a lot of talking and listening, and the therapist will typically gather both sides of the story and take a non-judgemental stance without favoring one partner over the other.
  4. Counselors will provide solution-focused treatment that often centers around behavior and routine changes for the couple. However, some other forms of treatment may be used if the counselor deems it necessary.

Typically, marriage counseling is a short-term form of treatment. You’ll probably attend sessions weekly to begin with, then move to less frequent visits as time goes on and your relationship improves. 

Some couples only work with the marriage counselor for a few months, whereas others may spend more time in treatment — it all depends on the issues within your relationship when you start the counseling process.

Ultimately, marriage counseling gives couples the tools they need to improve communication and effectively solve problems as they arise within the relationship.

No marriage is perfect, but with professional help you and your partner can learn how to resolve conflicts without heated arguments or resentment. 

Working with a marriage counselor probably won’t be easy at first, and you may spend sessions glaring or yelling at each other. These responses are more than okay. In fact, they’re even encouraged because they help the counselor work towards the root issues so you can heal.

At the end of the day, a marriage counselor will help mediate conflicts and teach you and your partner how to fight fairly so that you can work through whatever issues brought you to this breaking point.

If you’d like a more in-depth look at how marriage counseling works and what marriage counselors help couples do, this video from Biltmore Psychology and Counseling breaks down what to expect from your first session and how marriage counselors typically help couples.

Is marriage counseling right for us?

Let’s be real: no marriage is perfect. Even the most successful couples run into situations where their ideas, values, or opinions don't align with their partner's.

Although these differences don’t mean that your relationship is doomed, these conflicts can test the strength of your marriage.

Of course, disagreements aren’t the only situations that cause couples to seek professional help. Sometimes specific issues like extramarital affairs or even just a gradual breakdown in communication bring couples to the therapist’s office.

In general, most marriage counselors work with couples who are struggling with issues like: 

  • Infidelity
  • Substance abuse or other mental health issues
  • Financial stress and changes in employment
  • Communication problems
  • Lack of sexual intimacy
  • Cultural clashes or disagreements on parenting
  • Infertility, adoption struggles, or other family issues

Regardless of the cause, your relationship's turmoil can create tension, fear, sadness, and other complicated emotions.

When couples ignore their relationship problems and let them fester, they can lead to more serious issues and, often, divorce.

While many couples wait until there’s an issue to seek professional help, you don't need a troubled relationship to see a therapist.

In fact, the experts at Healthy Place stress that marriage counseling can also help couples who want to strengthen their bonds and feel even closer. 

It’s important to keep in mind that marriages evolve over time, and not all couples require the same things when they see a marriage counselor.

However, most counselors will tell you that your relationship probably falls under one of three main categories:

  1. The "Repair' Group - In general, couples who fall under this category report high rates of dissatisfaction with their marriage and may even be considering divorce. These couples seek out professional help to hopefully repair their marriage and secure the foundation before it’s too late.
  2. The “Room for Improvement” GroupUnlike the couples in the first category, these couples aren’t dealing with major breakdowns in the marriage… but they aren’t completely satisfied either. These couples may be struggling with life changes or other circumstances that cause them to feel like something is “off.”
  3. The “Feeling Good” GroupThese couples generally feel happy with their marriage, but they are determined to maintain their marital bliss. Typically these couples just want to feel even more intimate and avoid future roadblocks in communication with a quick “relationship tuneup.”

Regardless of where you stand, the only requirement you need for marriage counseling is two partners who want to improve their relationship.

Whether you’re engaged or celebrating your 30th wedding anniversary, a marriage counselor can always find ways to help.

What is the success rate of marriage counseling?

Most of the time, couples avoid counseling because they wonder if the investment of time and money will be worth it. This is especially true for couples who have already tried working through their issues or spent years avoiding the problems altogether.

According to the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists, though, an overwhelming majority of couples who decide to try marriage counseling feel satisfied with their decision after the fact. 

In fact, over 98 percent of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists’ survey participants reported that they received excellent marriage counseling that provided exactly what they needed. 

What’s more, 93 percent of the surveyed clients shared that they felt like they could more effectively deal with problems within their relationship, not to mention they felt physically and mentally healthier after repairing their relationship.

Although these high satisfaction rates don’t always translate into successful relationship repairs, the American Psychological Association states that roughly 75 percent of couples who enter marriage counseling find success and maintain their marriage. 

This even includes couples with high-stress relationships like military couples, veterans with PTSD, parents of chronically ill children, and infertile couples. 

What is makes it successful?

While those statistics sound amazing, licensed clinical psychologist Dianne Grande points out that some key components make marriage counseling successful.

First and foremost, both partners in the relationship must be willing to enhance their self-awareness, vulnerably share with their partner, and learn some basic communication skills. Without these components, no marriage counseling will work.

Additionally, couples must decide to stop looking at their partner as an opponent and instead see them as a team member or part of the relationship as a whole. This also means feeling empathy for your partner, even in past situations where they hurt you.

Finally, both partners must see themselves as both part of the problem and part of the solution for marriage counseling to work. Although you may have valid complaints about your partner, you must also see that your behaviors need to change, too.

How long does it take for counseling to work?

Although many couples want to know how long marriage counseling will take, there isn’t a clear-cut answer as each relationship has unique needs. 

With that being said, licensed Marriage & Family Therapist Lisa Marie Bobby says that these factors ultimately impact the amount of time marriage counseling takes to work successfully:

  1. The specific needs of the couple
  2. The couple’s goals
  3. The methods the therapist uses and frequency of appointments
  4. The couple’s learning style and responsiveness to therapy
  5. The couple’s commitment to the process

While some couples can make progress in as little as 4-6 weeks, others may find that they require months of therapy for it to work.

The important thing is that both people in the relationship present themselves honestly during sessions and make concerted efforts to improve in between each appointment.

If you feel like you aren’t making progress or aren’t getting what you need out of marriage counseling, you need to share these feelings and listen to your partner and the marriage counselor's feedback.

Sometimes we’re just so critical of ourselves that we don’t see the small successes.

When should we stop and move on?

Just like there’s no set timeline on how many appointments you need with a marriage counselor to repair your relationship successfully, there’s also no rule that says you need to continue wasting time and money on something that isn’t working.

While there’s no hard and fast rule about when to call it quits, you can look for a few clues to help you decide if it’s time to pull the plug on marriage counseling and simply move on with your life. You should discontinue marriage counseling and move on if:

  • You’re in an abusive relationship
  • You or your partner lack emotion during sessions
  • You or your partner are continuing extramarital affairs even while in counseling
  • You dread therapy sessions and spending time with your partner
  • You can’t trust your partner even after months of therapy

Whether a Google search after your first big fight or years of marital frustration brought you here, I hope that you realize you aren’t alone just like I did with my own Google search a few years ago.

If your relationship feels out of balance, don’t worry; there are people out there who can help.

Marriage counselors are trained to help couples work through problems and return to a place of comfort and intimacy — you just have to be willing to take that first step and get help.

Obviously marriage counseling isn’t a magic fix to your relationship (trust me, I’ve been there).

However, if you and your partner are committed to testing the waters out together, you may find that it’s exactly what you need to keep your marriage afloat.

May 16, 2020

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Not every girl you ask out is going to reciprocate your interest. However, if you seem to be stuck in a pattern of “no thank you's”, you need to do something different.

Sure, you’ve got plenty of positive qualities that could make a girl very happy.

However, you also need to showcase at least some level of confidence that makes her think that she can trust you from the start. 

That’s what “The Tao of Badass” is all about.

It teaches guys all about becoming confident in a way that provides maximum attraction.

You don’t have to act like someone you’re not, because that will eventually be exposed. 

It just shows you how to work with what you have and become the most attractive version of yourself.


“The Tao of Badass” is made for people like you, who might not be superstar athletes or movie-star handsome, but who nonetheless have a lot to offer.

It’s an eBook that provides a crash-course in becoming suaver and more discriminating in your decisions.

While it’s totally possible for someone with low confidence to get a girlfriend, their insecurities mean that things are eventually going to turn sour.

Afterall, if you don’t believe in yourself, how are girls going to believe in you?

You might imagine a book like this will require you to dress and act completely differently.

But what’s attractive to many women is being yourself. You can stop hiding behind an idea of what you should be like and really embrace your quirks and interests.

There’s nothing more badass than someone who knows who he is and relishes it.

This book is also about showing respect to women. While it teaches you how to increase their attraction to you, it doesn’t do it in a way that manipulates them.

You can use “The Tao of Badass” to create a healthy, mutually beneficial relationship.

About The Author

“The Tao of Badass” was created by Josh Pellicer. He’s a constant presence in media, promoting his knowledge on various dating topics.

He’s earned a lot of trust because of how relatable he is. When you hear Pellicer speak and read his words, you know that he knows what it’s like to be you.

He’s very self-reflective, and he doesn’t act in a way that suggests he thinks he’s better than you.

He was able to see that his efforts in trying to find a partner weren’t exactly the right ones, but he doesn’t keep his revelations to himself. He also doesn’t offer rushed solutions.

His work took time to perfect, because at first he didn’t know what would work best.

When you’re reading “The Tao of Badass,” you’ll know that it’s been written with intention and purpose.

What’s In It For You?

Covering lots of ground in the dating and courtship games, “The Tao of Badass,” creates a self that can best attract women.

While it might not be able to cover every single issue involving men and dating, you can count on it coming pretty close.

It also makes things worthwhile for women, because it teaches you how to relate to them in ways you might’ve never previously considered.

Lots of the book is rooted in psychology, specifically with how it relates to women.

You can learn how women think and how you can work with this for better communication, as well as how to create mutual understanding.

Just because you’re coming from different places doesn’t mean you can’t come to the same conclusion.

Getting continuously rejected can feel like a wound that won’t heal, but you don’t need to keep putting yourself through pain.

The Tao of Badass” shows you how you can create a self that women respond to. 

Forget everything about how you have been and work on figuring out what you can become.

What Will You Be Learning?

A place that men get stuck is that first conversation. If you can’t figure out what to say at the start, you’re not going to inspire a lot of confidence in a woman.

Pellicer offers lots of advice about how to make things start smoothly. You can make it feel like you’re an old friend or someone that has a million things to talk about with.

Besides knowing what to say, you should also know how to feel confident when coming up to a woman.

While some anxiety is good, too much can put you in a bad state of mind. “The Tao of Badass” teaches about feeling your best when this is happening.

You can also find how to better understanding the non-verbal cues women exhibit.

Primary Intentions

The short review of “The Tao of Badass” is that it tells you about how to become desirable to women. 

When it talks about being a badass, it doesn’t mean that you’ll become some kind of arrogant man who picks a fight wherever he sees an opportunity.

It means you’ll be a winning individual that people want to be around and who love getting to know. 

That’s what all people should strive for, regardless of if they’re looking to start a relationship.

Some guys can wear their shyness like a badge of honor.

They might think that it makes them more “mysterious,” and that guys who have the courage to actually go up to women are just “douchebags.”

You can call them whatever you like, but you can’t get mad when things don’t go your way with your current methods.

What Else Is Included?

A More Confident, Better You

You’ve probably met at least a couple of men who are in relationships with women who are way out of their league, attractiveness-wise. Does the man have a huge net worth that won the woman’s heart? 

Probably not. It’s their confidence that made them so attractive. “The Tao of Badass” teaches all about becoming confident in a way that makes you happy to meet people, because it means you get to introduce them to the wonder that is you.

Seduction Methods

You can hit it off with someone with them necessarily being attracted to you. This is hard to deal with, but it’s definitely important to understand because you need to know how you can steer things your way.

There’s a part of the eBook that tells you about how to get things started off right, including approaching a woman, as well as how to turn intrigue into arousal. You could get their heart pumping and have them eager to get your number after only a few minutes of talking.

Body Language Comprehension

Women say a lot without actually saying anything, at least not verbally. Sometimes, body language is obvious, as someone with their arms resting by their sides is more approachable than someone who has their arms folded up by their chest.

However, there are times when the signal is a lot more muffled. “The Tao of Badass” helps you with getting through these barriers.

You’ll better understand how women think and how it extends to their body language. Through regular observation, you can start to grasp their way of “speaking” to you even better than they can. It all starts with putting yourself in their mind.

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Pros and Cons


  • Excellent training on the psychology of women and what they look for in a guy
  • Gain an overall boost in confidence and self esteem that translates into every aspect of your life.
  • Includes videos, an ebook, audio, and chat conversion to really cover all methods of learning
  • An affordable program with a 60 day money back guarantee
  • Excellent for guys with zero or some experience with women 


  • The ebook is 150 pages which is a bit lengthy
  • There is not tailored advice to your specific situation. 
  • Not ideal for guys who are already doing ok with women

The Bottom Line:

“The Tao of Badass” will help you if you’re willing to be helped. It’s most important to have the right idea of where to start with talking to a woman.

This eBook will get you and your conversations going where they should be. You just need to take all of the tips to heart.

You’ll start getting excited about finding women, and you won’t be settling for meager returns either. When women see how confident you are, they’ll start to see you in a new way.

If you’ve been out of dating for a while, you can get help from “The Tao of Badass.” There might’ve been things about dating that you have changed in ways you didn’t realize.

If you want to attract younger women, you can find out how to not let your age be an issue. You can click the "Watch Intro Video Here" button below to access the free program overview video. Good luck!

Reviewing The Ex Factor Guide: Is This Program Worth It?

Recommended Age

18 - 45

Number of Members


For People Seeking

Winning Their Ex Back


We've rated the following 4 categories below based on our in-depth research to compare similar systems and products.




Success Rate

5.0 / 5.0

4.8 / 5.0

4.5 / 5.0

4.6 / 5.0

If you've been aching for a former flame, trying to think about what you could do to set things right and get them back, you don't need to suffer any longer.

With "The Ex Factor Guide," spearheaded by Brad Browning, relationships that might've once looked buried can be revived.

Don't think that your desperate pleading for your ex to come back counts as sufficient.

"The Ex Factor Guide" uses methods that aren't likely to come to you by default, because they require tapping directly into your ex's mind so you can understand them better.

There's no hypnosis happening here. You'll just be playing a special kind of game. It's actually not too different from the things you might've tried to initially attract them.

You don't need to worry about being caught with a physical book called "The Ex Factor Guide."

All of this is available digitally, giving you information through text as well as audio recordings and video.

You don't need to be completely clueless or desperate to get your relationship back on track to make use of this.

You just need to have a passion and real confidence in yourself. The program, available or purchase on Browning's website, works, but you need to allow it to.

Key Features

  •  40,000 word professionally-designed e-book
  • 3-part video series
  • 3 high-quality bonus PDF's (30-40+ pages each)
  • 15-chapter professional audio course
  • Extensive FAQ section

About The Program

"The Ex Factor Guide" is not the first guide made to help people get back with their exes, but we feel comfortable in saying that it's one of the best. 

Part of this is that it actually separates itself from the pack, and it's not just a vain attempt to try and seem different for no real reason.

What really works about this guide is how Brad Browning does such a good job of explaining his logic.

You really understand why he's offering this advice, but it's not so evident that you feel you could've come to these conclusions without his help.

There's also no sense that he's just bluffing his way through this advice, trying to give advice that he doesn't actually believe or hasn't tested.

It's also great how these methods aren't restricted to only working on men or only on women. Everyone can make use of "The Ex Factor Guide", no matter what their gender is.

About The E-Book

The heart of "The Ex Factor Guide" is its e-book, which tells you just what you need to do to get back with your ex.

At 120 pages, it's substantial, but it's not so long that you find yourself despairing.

Brad Browning doesn't just give great advice. He also knows how to write a book.

With its different parts, arranged in a very appropriate manner, "The Ex Factor" guide is a pleasure to read.

You might expect to sit down and start flipping through for the advice you're specifically seeking.

However, we advise you to take it slowly and really enjoy the writing and overall tone. If you learn one thing from this experience, it's that you shouldn't be rushing things.

What Else Should I Know?

Going through a breakup can cause a lot of insecurity and make you feel there's no chance of ever getting back together.

If you're just feeling bad for yourself, there's a zero percent chance anything will happen, unless your ex has a sudden change of heart.

Brad Browning doesn't act like anything is certain, but he definitely puts a lot of confidence inside you. He says that 90 percent of his students get back with their exes.

It's definitely understandable if you feel dubious about this. After all, if this was the case, wouldn't so many more of your friends and acquaintances have gotten back with their exes?

The answer is pretty simple: the reason why people who use this program succeed is because they're following a special sort of advice.

It's by no means a kind that can just be drummed up by anyone. It might look like a no-brainer in hindsight, but we have to applaud Brad Browning for coming up with strategies and giving them an easy-to-grasp process.

Another great thing about this program is how Brad Browning uses these methods not only to help you but also to help your ex.

When relationships end, it's not always because the people stopped loving each other.

It can often be because they realized that their love can only go so far under the current conditions. You might want to be a better person for your ex but not know how to accomplish this.

Having this kind of self-awareness is important for any kind of self-improvement. Someone who buys "
The Ex Factor Guide" might just think it's a shortcut to getting their ex back.

However, they might be shocked when they finish it and find out it was both a guide to getting their ex back as well as one of the best self-help guides they've ever used.

Pros and Cons


  • Good organization - It's not difficult to follow the information
  • Comprehensive training covering dozens of different scenarios
  • Proven system with thousands of success stories
  • Based on evidence and research over ten years or more
  • You get instant access to the program since it's all digital
  • Money back guarantee of 60 days


  • Only options to purchase are with Paypal or a credit card
  • Only language that the course is available in is English
  • Listening to audio is basically the same as reading book

The Bottom Line:

We don't know if this program is the best fit for you, but for the average person who wants to get their ex back, there's a ton of valuable information that comes with this program.

You can read this guide, as well as listen and watch videos. Plus, two more e-books come with the purchase.

If we showed you all of this and asked you to estimate how much you think it all costs, we think you would be shocked to know that it's only $47.

Being digital-exclusive means you get "
The Ex Factor Guide" shortly after purchasing it. You should be super-excited to start reading it right away. 

Don't let yourself just rush through it in an hour. Instead, let yourself really ruminate over every piece of advice as well as every sentence.

To help things feel more personable, we recommend using the audio aspects. It can feel like a trustworthy friend is reaching out and giving you beneficial advice.

If you're one of the 10 percent of customers who isn't able to get anything out of "The Ex Factor Guide," don't think that you've just spent $47 you'll never see again.

Brad Browning isn't just a great advice-giver, he's also quite understanding.

With no hassle, you can get your money back within 60 days of purchase. Try to really give this program an honest try before asking for a refund.

Just because a relationship has been deemed over doesn't mean it really is. "The Ex Factor Guide" can provide salvation for anyone who wants to reunite with their ex.

Reviewing The Text Your Ex Back System: Is It Worth The Price?

Recommended Age

18 - 35

Number of Members


For People Seeking

Winning Their Ex Back


We've rated the following 4 categories below based on our in-depth research to compare similar products and systems.




Success Rate

4.9 / 5.0

4.4 / 5.0

4.0 / 5.0

4.8 / 5.0

Your relationship just ended, so now what?

While your window of time to reconcile with your ex gets narrower as each day passes following a breakup, it’s definitely possible. 

“Text Your Ex Back” is an program that gives lots of good advice on how to ignite the flames again with your ex through texting.

Michael Fiore, the author, specializes in helping relationships. There’s some real ingenuity offered here.

With his advice, you won’t be relying on the same methods that might’ve led your relationship to falter in the first person.

You need to have a new mindset, even if the relationship isn’t entirely new.

Listen to this advice with real intention and think about why you’re being told what you are.

There’s a lot of good that can come from giving things a second chance, but you have to put forth the effort.

Here's the rundown on the program.

About This Program

If you’ve dated long enough, you probably have at least one relationship that ended before it needed to.

There might’ve been what seemed like a valid reason at the time, but you eventually realized that if you could’ve prevented it, you would’ve.

A lot of things can prevent a reunion, including pride.

Text Your Ex Back” covers what it’s title brings up, but also more. It helps you understand the flaws that hurt you and your partner in the first place. 

Any relationship is susceptible to these flaws, so don’t think that you can just go into a new relationship and not expect history to unfortunately repeat itself.

Texting and its use in relationships is a fairly new development, but its significance is undeniable.

You can use your writing skills and thoughtfulness to help patch things up.

Alternatively, people who lack etiquette can end up hurting their chances of reunion even more.

But Fiore takes an optimistic perspective with this program. He knows that texting can be a tool for good when it comes to saving relationships.

At its core, it’s a communication tool, and it can make your communication better all around.

Who Is Michael Fiore?

You might not know Michael Fiore’s name, but you might’ve seen his face. He’s popped up on TV to offer his expertise.

Additionally, this is one of several programs he’s created on relationships.

Part of his success can be attributed to his personableness. Fiore doesn’t just proselytize. He brings actual character into his writing.

You can better understand why he’s offering his advice through how he shares it.

Psychic abilities might not exist, but “
Text Your Ex Back” can help you tap into your ex’s mind. This can be done without being a manipulative action. 

Fiore teaches about how to be better at empathy, which can only make your relationship better.

What's This Program Include?

With a versatile array of materials, including multimedia aspects, “Text Your Ex Back” gives you lots of ways to use texting to your advantage.

Information is parsed out sensibly, through 11 different parts that use creative titling to pique your curiosity even further.

1.) Introduction

Fiore gives an overall introduction to his program and what you should expect to learn from him throughout

2.) The Dumper and the Dumped

This is the first two parts of the eBook. It can be a tough pill to swallow, because it tells you why you were likely dumped.

Denial can put you in a terrible spot, and it can make you seem like you’re not actually willing to change, only that you want to get back with your ex for the sake of your self-esteem.

3.) The Big Goal

Missing someone on a night of loneliness isn’t a good enough reason to get back with them. You need to actually have real reasons, which is what this section helps you figure out.

4.) The Flight Deck

You might want to skip right to this section, as it’s the one that involves texting. However, you absolutely shouldn’t do so. When you’re finally prepared, you can follow the process listed here.

5.) Text Judo

Texting is just the start of getting back with your ex. You need to let yourself be vulnerable, likely in a way that you haven’t been since the relationship initially started.

6.) Across the Bow

There needs to be a strategy in some part of your reaching out. This section gives you advice on both the timing and tone of your messages.

7.) Prepping the Soil

Just as a farmer or gardener needs to make sure the soil is tilled before planting, you need to make sure you're creating a fertile ground for your relationship to regrow. Otherwise, you’ll yield no crop to speak of.

8.) The Green-Eyed Monster

While your former partner might claim they’re happy to be done with you, there are some ways you can make them doubt this.

You need to create actual desire within them, so much so that they’ll start to see you as someone they can’t imagine being without.

9.) Planting the Seeds

Your partner fell for you because how special you are and how you made them feel. To give a relationship fruition on the second go-around, you need to heed the advice in this section.

10.) Reaping the Harvest

If you’ve done everything you need to, everything should fall into place. This part of the eBook helps you get your relationship restarted in the right way.

11.) Texting Steady

Try new things with every part of your revamped relationship, including after things are officially back on track.

It takes constant nurturing for a relationship to stay healthy. In this section, you’ll see why consistency is important with your texting and how you communicate otherwise.

Pros and Cons


  • Simple to comprehend training
  • Concrete scenarios given
  • Lots of applicable texts
  • Lets you see things from your ex’s POV
  • Keeps you from dwelling and blaming yourself
  • Encourages stronger relationship practices
  • 30-day guarantee
  • For both genders
  • Members get excellent support


  • Might not work for certain people
  • Requires self-assessment
  • Requires self-discipline to finish
  • Not all texts apply to all people
  • Don’t receive all sections at once

The Bottom Line:

Your texting wasn’t the only reason why your relationship ended. So, why would fixing it help to get it back on track.

Well, this program isn’t mean to say that texting is the only thing to cover, but it’s definitely an important one, and it can help lead to a lot of growth in other areas.

Even if you’re not convinced yet, reading through the first few sections will help clarify the point of this system very quickly.

It attracts you through its catchy title, but it keeps you through how thoughtfully it’s written.

You’re going to be texting no matter what, and some of these people could be partners.

If you haven’t learned anything from your old relationship ending, what’s to say you won’t just repeat the same blunders?

“Text Your Ex Back” puts you back in control and stops you from succumbing to your worst instincts.

Plus, there’s no harm in trying. If you don’t like it after 30 days, you can request a refund.

There are no major restrictions either, as both straight and LGBTQ people can make use of this program.

The end of a relationship can put you in a period of mourning, and you might think that all hope is lost.

It’s only gone if you’ve completely given yourself to being despondent, which we hope isn’t the case.

You shouldn’t just pull out your phone and start sending out texts in hopes that it garners an ex’s pity.

You can trust Michael Fiore for many reasons, including his friendliness and his credentials.

His line of work is a kind that many try to do, but few are actually able to succeed. The reason he can is that he’s actually knowledgeable, and his advice makes sense.

However, it’s not just a bunch of filler that anyone could’ve thought up.

No relationship book is perfect, and some things could be better about this one, such as its structure.

We hope that Fiore releases future installments that expand on some of the concepts he discusses here.

But what's most important is what you do and how much you're willing to change. "Text Your Ex Back" sets the stage for you, but it's up to you if you want to succeed.

To check out this program you can click the link below and see if it's a good fit for you. Best of luck!

May 16, 2020

Reviewing Magnetic Messaging System: Is This Program Worth It?

Recommended Age

18 - 32

Number of Members


For Guys Seeking

Attract Girls With Text


We've rated the following 4 categories below based on our in-depth research to compare similar products and systems.




Success Rate

3.9 / 5.0

4.7 / 5.0

4.4 / 5.0

4.6 / 5.0

There’s hardly a more significant blow to your ego then getting to know a girl, receiving her number, and not getting any responses to your texts. 

You might wonder if there’s a bad connection, but you’ll eventually have the face reality: something about your texts weren’t working.

You don’t want to be the guy blowing up her phone either, as that makes you look annoying and desperate. To get off on the right foot, use a program like Magnetic Messaging.

With Magnetic Messaging, you can learn how to send texts that make a woman eager to respond to you.

Its been designed to help different guys with different texting and relationship needs. Here's the rundown on this program.

Key Features

  • The Magnetic Messaging training guide
  • The 99 best texts of all time
  • The Infatuation Formula - How to get women emotionally addicted to being around you
  • Rejection Proof Formula - How to become impossible to reject

About This Program

Communicating through text is different than face-to-face or even over the phone, but it shouldn’t be seen as inherently impersonal.

You’ve surely had conversations where you and a girl you like were regularly sending messages back and forth, and you were eager for every response.

You can’t force chemistry via texts, but you can build off existing passion and intrigue to mine further potential.

Magnetic Messaging is an eBook that gives you concrete advice through the help of experts Bobby Rio and Rob Judge.

There are different aspects of Magnetic Messaging that we’ll tell you all about here.

Part 1

The Magnetic Messaging creators have dubbed a crucial part of the courtship process as the “phone game.”

Between introducing yourself and going out with her, you need to make good use of your mobile device.

Unfortunately, it’s easy to treat this part of the process as an afterthought.

Guys who are used to moderate text conversations may have trouble adjusting to one that requires actual involvement. 

You might not be the only guy texting the girl you like, and it would be hard to blame her for choosing a guy with more pizazz.

You don’t need to be someone you’re not in order to attract a girl.

Magnetic Messaging helps you to work with the tools currently at your disposal to create texts that are involving but that are also yours.

Your messages can be like magnets if you follow their advice.

Part 2

A major way you can blow things is by being too passive with setting up dates.

Sending that text is scary, but you can’t just drag on a conversation until she's grown sick of you. 

Rio and Judge want you to cut to the chase. They advise you to send a maximum of two messages and then suggest a date.

The initial conversation might go on longer than that, but as long as your focus is on getting the date going, you’ll be in good shape.

When you get that first urge to message her, act upon it.

There’s no physical timer that will go off if you don’t arrange a date soon enough, but you should still be keeping the pressure on yourself as if there is.

Magnetic Messaging helps to keep you disciplined and make your messages just right.

Key Lock Sequence Method

With Magnetic Messaging’s Key-Lock Sequence, you can avoid the pitfalls that come with texting wishy-washiness, as that can quickly get your in the friend zone.

You need to jump on any openings you have.

The three ways to do this are: spark emotions, make connections, handle logistics. 

You’ll regularly see these brought up in this eBook.

There can be times when a conversation doesn’t ignite, but you don’t need to give up.

You’ll get advice that instructs you on how to make conversations that might’ve seemed dead in the water into rejuvenated ones.

Girls Don't Like Needy Guys

Sometimes, it’s hard to distinguish who’s playing “hard to get” and who is genuinely uninterested in you.

However, Rio and Judge promote keeping your spirits up and not folding at the first sign of trouble.

You shouldn’t be trying to girls into liking you. That’s pretty much impossible, and it’s very creepy behavior.

Instead, Magnetic Messaging teaches you how to use being nonchalant to your advantage.

You’ll look far more attractive when it becomes clear that your self-worth is not dependent on if this particular girl is into you.

You’ll still need to be engaged by sending her messages, and the eBook gives you excellent guidance on this.

Some girls might be very attracted to you, but they want to string you along a little first.

Let them see that you’re just as capable of playing games.

Part 3

Getting that first date is a major accomplishment, and it’s great to be going steady with a girl you like, but being able to go from casual to official isn’t a two-step process.

You should never take a relationship for granted, but it’s especially important not to do so in the early stages of a relationship.

The first date is an all-important part of a relationship.

Even the most prepared and confident people can go into these and feel nervous, because you’re basically showing yourself as what you think is your best. 

However, this might not be the self that most attracts girls.

With Magnetic Messaging’s confirmation test, you’ll figure out the best ways to put your date at ease and help her enjoy the experience, as well as yourself.

Post Sex Texting

Having sex with her can make it feel like you’ve done everything you need to and that you just need to wait for her to make it official on social media.

But sex can complicate things, especially with creating uncertainty about where you stand in your relationship.

A question can arise, such as, “Does he like me for me, or for the sex?”

The texts you send following sex are among the most important you’ll ever send.

In the eBook, the authors teach you about using texts to create further intimacy and arousal.

It shows you how to be a true gentleman, which should never be overlooked.

Part 4

When your relationship is confirmed, you might think that the pressure is off in terms of texting.

That’s definitely not right, because falling into a pattern of boring texting opens the opportunity for another guy to swoop in.

You shouldn’t be doing anything halfheartedly, especially not in a relationship.

This part of the eBook teaches you how you can keep up the texting expertise even when things are official.

You’ll learn about ways you can keep your messaging and your relationship fresh.

It’s a surefire way to keep things interesting, but you need to make sure you’re actually trying.

Sexting 101

The first time you exchange raunchy texts or photos with her can be incredibly exciting, even if you’ve done it with plenty of girls before.

While sexting might not seem like something that should have guidelines, there are better ways to do it than you might realize.

If you’re nervous about asking, you’ll learn ways you can reduce awkwardness. She might really want to send you some or even ask you, but may feel shy as well.

You can learn how to take charge and get both of your hearts pumping.

What's Included in the Program?

Pros and Cons


  • Concisely written in an engaging way that doesn't have much fluff or filler content
  • Actionable advice and models that you can follow step by step
  • Dozens of texting scenarios to equip you with the knowledge to understand every situation
  • Value packed training guide with 3 bonus trainings
  • Affordable price relative to the other texting programs out there


  • No tailored advice for a specific guys situation
  • You need put these methods into practice. You need to stay patient and realize things may not change overnight.

The Bottom Line:

If you’re tired of sending texts to girls you’re interested in, but you’re not getting anywhere, you need to change things.

Getting outside of your head and listening to the advice of others is a significant sign of maturity.

Magnetic Messaging doesn’t require you to change everything about how you text. 

It just requires some general maintenance. You should see the reasoning behind much of their advice.

Ask yourself what you really have to lose if you go through with this.

It’s unlikely that you hold your texting history so close to your heart that you would shun anything that would change it.

With attraction on the line, now is the time to really make something out of yourself and your texts.

May 15, 2020

Reviewing Mend The Marriage: Is This Program Worth It?

Recommended Age

Anyone Who's Married

Number of Members


For Couples Seeking

Save Their Marriage


We've rated the following 4 categories below based on our in-depth research to compare similar products and systems.




Success Rate

4.6 / 5.0

4.7 / 5.0

4.1 / 5.0

4.6 / 5.0

Marriages can all go through rough patches. There might be a loss of initial spark or a lack of communication that causes a union to lose its vitality.

Cheating, or the temptation to do so, can also put marriage in serious trouble.

While certain marriages end at the first sign of trouble, others are kept alive because the people involved believe they’re worth fighting for.

However, you can’t expect to fight unless you have the right tools. One of the best you can use is “Mend the Marriage,” created by Brad Browning.

If you want to give your marriage a real chance at redemption, you should consider this program.

All marriages are unique, which is what makes them so beautiful when they go right.

Brad Browning might not be able to observe your marriage specifically and offer advice tailored to it, but the information here can be used in lots of scenarios.

Key Features

  •  45,000 word professionally-designed e-book
  •  7-part live-person video series
  • 3 high-quality bonus PDF's (30-40+ pages each)
  • 25-chapter professional audio course
  • 3-part "team building" worksheets

About This Program

A marriage on the rocks can be helped by “Mend the Marriage.” The use of this program isn’t limited to men or women either.

Completely digital, it’s comprised of an e-book as well as audio recordings and videos.

It’s made with a strong awareness of marriages, how they can wind up in bad shape, and how they can be helped.

The book portion of “
Mend the Marriage” explains ways marriages can turn sour and what spouses can do to fix. 

Using “ABCD,” couples can avoid conflict and learn to embrace each other again.

It just requires you to “Accept the situation,” “build resilience,” “commit to change,” then “dedicate yourself to the task.” 

But you can’t jut be aware of these steps. You also need to live them.

To help, this program comes with hands-on materials that test and furthers your knowledge.

Different situations are covered within the material, including dealing with cheating and helping children understanding divorce.

Reading through “Mend the Marriage” will give you practical information, delivered in a practical manner.

If you think you’ve done “everything,” to salvage your marriage, you can attempt one more thing with this system.

About Brad Browning

The name Brad Browning might not mean anything to you, but he has credentials you can trust.

For more than. decade, he’s been helping couples restore their relationships when it seemed like all hope was lost.

You only have to read endorsements of his “The Ex Factor Guide” to know that Browning is the real deal.

Another way to get acquainted with Browning is with his YouTube videos, which cover similar topics as his books.

Browning’s web presence extends to different websites, with pieces offering his wisdom on making the most out of love.

No one person can rescue a marriage they’re not directly involved in, but what Brad Browning can do is provide tools for helping those in the marriage help themselves. 

His success record is a positive indicator that the Browning way of doing things is one of the best.

What’s In The Program?

Using “Mend the Marriage,” lets you see things that might’ve been clouded by bad judgment or poor thought patterns.

Essentially, you’ll need to undo the direction you’ve been going in that has put your marriage at risk. It’s like patching up a car that’s been making some funny noises.

If you’re not thinking well of your spouse or not thinking about them at all, your marriage is going to suffer.

In his program, Brad Browning addresses negativity, because he knows that you can’t just pretend everything is okay and expect it to be.

The aforementioned “ABCD” method helps you to handle conflicts maturely and successfully.

All of these can be used for different situations in ways that let everyone come out feeling respected and heard.

Other Key Information

Brad Browning takes a step-by-step approach to help couples solve conflict and restore their marriage.

It doesn’t give a one-size-fits-all method, because every situation is unique.

A troubled marriage can only be saved if the people involved care about saving it.

This program can’t accomplish that any more than a good pair of running shoes can help you finish a marathon.

You have to take control and put forth the effort.

However, it’s full of information and useful methods that can help you bring the love and excitement back into your marriage.

You can re-learn all the things that helped you to fall in love with your spouse.

Marital problems can happen, but you can solve them in different ways. “Mend The Marriage,” puts these solutions right into your hands.

Will This System Work?

There are other ways to help your marriage, including going to counseling. However, that can cost a lot of money and time.

“Mend The Marriage” takes the philosophy of marriage counseling and helps you bring into your home.

Instead of scheduling appointments, you can pull out your laptop or smartphone and go over the information.

Using “Mend The Marriage” properly means going through your marriage and thinking about what behaviors might have put it in a bad place.

This isn’t about making you or your spouse feel bad. You need to work together.

It’s not hard to understand “Mend The Marriage,” but it can be a challenge for people actually to put the advice to use. 

They need to take the time to go through the program, digest the information, apply what they have learned, and repeat.

If you really give this program a try and it’s not doing anything to help, you can get a refund in 60 days. Try not to ask for this if you’ve only read a little bit for a day or so.

A marriage in trouble can be given a second chance thanks to “Mend The Marriage,” and the participation of people who really care about their union.

You have overcome so much, and this doesn’t have to be any more of a challenge than anything else you’ve succeeded at.

Pros and Cons


  • Both women and men who are having marital issues can benefit from this program. It's best to go through it with your partner for maximum benefits
  • Multiple ways of digesting the information whether you learn better through video, audio, or from reading
  • Compared to couples counseling, you can save your marriage for a fraction of the cost since this program is affordable.
  • Many different marriage scenarios are discussed to give multiple perspectives on how to address your situation.
  • Get a full refund after 60 days if you aren't satisfied with the program.


  • No tailored advice to a couple specific situation. 
  • You need to put forth the effort to apply the information from the program. There is no quick fix or magic pill to save your marriage over night.

The Bottom Line:

If marriages didn't require care, they wouldn't be worth it. You might be evaluating the direction yours has taken and think about what you could've done differently.

While that list is likely long, trying to itemize all of your mistakes isn't going to help.

What will help is using a program like "
Mend The Marriage." What we liked most about Brad Browning is that he won't give you any false promises of instant results. 

He's transparent and upfront about who his program is for, and who it isn't.

Don't ever take your marriage for granted or just assume that one glance over this program will give you all the solutions you need.

Keep yourself accountable and remember to embrace the beauty of a successful marriage.

You can watch Brad Browning's first video for free by clicking the "Watch Intro Video Here" button below. We wish you the best of luck!

May 15, 2020

Reviewing The Devotion System: Is This Program Worth It?

Recommended Age

Women of All Ages

Number of Members


For Women Seeking

A Man's Devotion


We've rated the following 4 categories below based on our in-depth research to compare similar systems and products.




Success Rate

4.9 / 5.0

4.6 / 5.0

4.2 / 5.0

4.8 / 5.0

So many people like to fancy themselves as relationship experts, and the internet has created so many platforms that it can be extraordinarily hard to sort through them all.

Some of this advice is from people with good intentions and good information, but a lot of it is from delusional people or ones who just want to make some money without really intending to help anyone.

There’s also “The Devotion System,” masterminded by Amy North. Targeted at women who want to have a relationship with a man that actually lasts, “The Devotion System” offers a sense of renewal for anyone who feels jaded by relationships.

Key Features

  •  50,000 word professionally-designed e-book 
  • 13-part live-person video series
  • 3 high-quality bonus PDF's (30-40+ pages each)
  • 3-part audio course (almost 5 hours in length)


The kind of dating advice you need depends on where you are in your love life.

You might need help getting someone to notice you, or you might need help going from a casual relationship to a full-time one. 

“The Devotion System’ offers assistance in all aspects.

You might have a pattern of failure in your relationships. This isn’t meant to make you chastise yourself, as anyone can make mistakes or get in a bad relationship.

However, if you find yourself constantly making the same mistakes, including falling in love with people who you know are bad for you, you need real help, which Amy North can provide.

About The System Creator

Coming from the great city of Vancouver, Canada, Amy North has been helping people around the world for over half-a-decade.

All parts of a relationship that you can think of have been given Amy’s expertise, including the messier parts, such as separating.

Amy believes in love, but she doesn’t try to portray some kind of fairytale ideal in which everything can be perfect if you wish hard enough.

You need to work hard on yourself and your relationship.

What’s In It For You?

“The Devotion System” is an eBook, available on desktop and mobile programs. You can read it online as well. 

There are three different sections. The first talks about healing, the second gives an overview on understanding men, and the third talks about the different parts of getting someone to fall for you.

Although Amy’s insights aren’t all going to strike you as entirely original, the way they’ve been organized so methodically is worth applauding.

This eBook is quite a page-turner, and it immediately grabs your attention. It starts by having you focus inward.

If there are things you need to do to really make yourself the best possible person, make sure you cover them before you go any further with trying to woo someone.

Letting Go and Moving On

The inaugural section of the eBook talks about falling in love with one key person: yourself.

You’ve probably heard so much about how external love isn’t possible without internal love. Even if you’re sick of hearing this, you need to believe it truly.

You may have some bad experiences that are keeping you from loving yourself as much as you need to.

Perhaps you think that the more you attack yourself, the more you’ll grow.

But that doesn’t work, and neither does getting mad about how you look.

You might never look exactly how you want to, but you can be beautiful in a much more important way: through the kindness you can within you and spread to the people around you. 

This can make you attractive in ways the most expensive makeup never could.

Sure, some men are shallow and only care about looks. However, these definitely aren’t the men you want to attract.


Having “spark” is important for any relationship, but this acronym means something different.

It’s what Amy champions women to have to see romantic success. You need to be:

👉  Sexy and sassy

👉  Playful and positive

👉  Attractive and admirable

👉  Radiant and real

👉  Keen and kind

Many of these elements may be within you, but they just need the right nudging in order to come out.

Being Beautiful

Advertisers will have you believe that a particular outfit is all it takes to feel confident, because they depend on your dollars.

You can accomplish this in a much more affordable and sustainable way. You need to think in a way that uproots any negative perceptions you might have of yourself.

You don’t need to despise yourself to benefit from a new way of thinking.

You probably have at least some love for yourself, but it might be coming out only when you’re accomplishing something new, like getting a new job.

“The Devotion System” can teach you to love yourself no matter how you are, as well as reshaping yourself for the better.

Men 101

There are differences between women and men, just like how there are differences between women and other women.

Humans aren’t a monolith, but our differences don’t need to prevent us from getting along.

Amy uses this section to help you better understand what men are all about and how this information can help you attract your ideal man.

It’s not meant to provide a complete analysis of the entire male gender. If you want to really get into that kind of complexity, you’ll have to read academic papers full of jargon.

Amy’s advice is digestible but also meaningful. One of the biggest ways she helps readers is by talking about the importance of communication.

Relationships need communication in order to work. Otherwise, confusion will reign supreme, making way for the inevitable resentment.

Communication is more than just talking. You need to know how a man thinks as well as how they communicate.

Stages of Love

The final part is the most comprehensive. It runs the gamut of relationship development, especially with making someone your exclusive partner.

It starts with “The Monogamy Method.” This is really important to learn if you want to convince a man that you’re the absolute best person for them and that they shouldn’t be looking for anyone but you.

Amy will teach you how to make him feel secure.

Next is the more straightforward “Phone Phrenzy Technique.” Although it’s not quite as extensive, it’s still good to read, as you might be communicating on the phone in a way that’s hindering your chances of finding true love.

Sex isn’t the only thing that makes a relationship good, but it can definitely help. The eBook has an area that helps to really bring out the passions, both for him and for you.

Awareness of what gets you going in the bedroom is a must. When you’ve figured this out, you can learn about where men most desire physical contact.

Other information is brought up here. Amy uses visual means to help better communicate with you.

Bonus 🎁

Along with the aforementioned chapters, there’s “Textual Chemistry” “Cheat-Proofing” and “Finding Love Online.” 

These are all quality and timely sections. Not knowing how to text can be a deal breaker in a relationship, and you need to make infidelity unacceptable, as well as snagging a partner with the internet.

Pros and Cons


  • Good organization - It's not hard to follow the information, and the order in which it's presented makes total sense
  • Adaptability - Unlike programs that are for people in specific circumstances, such as at the beginning of a relationship or in years into a marriage, "The Devotion System" helps anyone who needs it
  • Self-Development - "The Devotion System" doesn't just help you with your romantic life. It also helps you be who you want to be.


  • Takes time - Not working instantly isn't a reason to not recommend "The Devotion System," but this kind of disclaimer is important because we don't want you to think one eBook will solve all your problems in a day.
  • Digital-only - You might be one of those people who needs a hardcopy book if you're to do any long-term reading. 

The Bottom Line:

We really like "The Devotion System," even though it's not quite as revolutionary as you might hope for. 

Some of the answers are obvious, but they're ones that you might've been ignoring. Now is the time to face the truth.

There's work you need to do before you read even the first sentence. You need to make yourself receptive to advice.

If you're feeling immovable, like you can't imagine following anyone's guidance but your own, "The Devotion System," can only help you so much.

But if you want to and are willing to work, this system will be great for you. Its adaptability means that you can apply these lessons to different situations.

You could read these two different times, five years apart, and emerge with completely different conclusions, but they are uniformly useful.

Devotion is a broad concept, but we all have to be devoted to someone. The best place to start is by being devoted to ourselves.

Otherwise, we wouldn't have any accountability or reason to care about others.

With "The Devotion System," you can love others and help them to love you because of the love you hold for yourself.

You'll find yourself shaking off the bonds of insecurity and living your life to the absolute fullest.

With the kindness of Amy North and the help of her "Devotion System," you can feel like a new woman.

Top 5 Chinese Dating Sites Reviewed (Updated for 2020)

Online dating comes with a multitude of pros, including helping users narrow down their searches and test the waters before setting up the first date.

However, a new issue has arisen. There are thousands of dating sites. How are you supposed to figure out which ones are legitimate?

A good place to start is by thinking about yourself and what dating sites are and aren't offering.

For instance, if you're a Chinese woman or want to date a Chinese woman, you should try to find sites that meet your needs. These are the best Chinese dating sites.

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