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December 27, 2019

Dating After A Breakup: Advice For Starting New Relationships

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After you break up with a partner, the first question that comes to mind likely isn't "when can I date someone else?" But eventually, it will be. Once some time has passed, you'll feel ready to put yourself back out in the dating pool. 

The amount of time is different for everyone, especially based on the length of a relationship. While I, personally, was never a big fan of Sex and the City, I am a fan of character Charlotte York's advice that it typically takes half of the time of a relationship to get over your ex. So if you were going strong for a year? It'd likely take six months to move forward.

But, that only pertains to relationships that were always healthy. Sometimes, we stay with someone longer than we should, even if we know they're toxic. Why? In the words of Ojus Patel Desai from MindBodyGreen, "There is much more resolve needed to let go than hold on."

In our heads, we feel like maybe the relationship will flourish once again with time. In our hearts, we know it's been over for months, but neither one of you wants to make the break official. Breaking up is hard, and can be very messy if done incorrectly.

If you're ready to figure out what happens after your broken heart has finally had a chance to heal, you're in the right place. Here's everything you need to know to successfully start dating again after a big breakup.

Why dating immediately after a breakup is a bad idea

A lot of men and women feel confident to finally leave a bad relationship after meeting somebody new. While it's good to break things off rather than cheat, it's still a move that'll probably lead to disastrous results. Even if your heart is no longer with your ex, you still might have a lot of loose ends that need to be tied up.

For example, it'd be pretty embarrassing to invite a new fling over and realize you're still logged into your exes Netflix account. Even if the romance died in your relationship years ago, chances are you still might share the same mutual friends or even a basket of stuff left at each other's apartments. You need to take the time to cleanse your ex from your life altogether. 

There's also a chance that you've friended and followed their family members on social media, so you also need to take the time to think about whether or not staying connected would look good to a potential new relationship. How often do you talk to your exes mom? Would it be weird to cut them off completely?

If you're hoping to remain friends with your ex, dating someone new soon after a breakup will also give them the wrong idea. Put yourself in their shoes, and see how your self-confidence takes a dive. While you shouldn't live your life based solely on your exes' feelings, it's better to be kind about the situation than completely burn a bridge if at all possible.

It's also a big red flag to the new person you're dating. "People often date as a form of romantic validation, especially if you were the one rejected," said writer Jenna Birch from The Washington Post. "However, this move is only likely to stunt connection and cause hurt."

How long you should wait to date again?

While I gave the Sex and the City answer above, the truth of the matter is that it should only be used as a rough guideline. Every relationship is a little different. If you dated a partner long-distance for a year, never cohabitated, and rarely went on any physical dates, it'll be a lot easier to move on than if you shared an electric bill and a pet cat.

You want to put yourself out there when your heart has healed. When you go back to dating, you'll need to can the idea that your ex is the person you'll end up with at the end. Sure, it's possible for reconciliation in the future, but feeling as if that'll be your inevitable solution just isn't fair to the next person you date.

Even if you were the person who was badly hurt within the relationship, it may take some time to fully recover. If your ex cheated on you, or emotionally abused you, you might not feel as if you're worthy of dating. 

Suzannah Weiss from Bustle chatted with social worker Kryss Shane about the issue, who confirmed that it could take years to date again if it means re-establishing who you are as an individual. If your ex has torn you down, you need to build yourself up before confidently putting yourself out there again. 

Just be honest with yourself. If you're not ready, you're not ready. And it might sound a little cliche, but you can't expect somebody else to fall for you if you're not currently a huge fan of yourself.

Tips for meeting someone new

If you're not a natural when it comes to putting yourself out there, don't worry. Sometimes, you can meet new people when you least expect it. You just need to be open to saying yes to every invite.

Not everyone is a natural at being social, but it's a skill that's worth building on. If a friend invites you to a party, it is incredibly easy to tell them you have other plans since you'd prefer just to sit inside, lounge around, and order food in.

There's definitely a time and place for nights like this, but you're unknowingly sheltering yourself from meeting new people in your age range that likely have similar interests to you.

Even if it's stopping in and saying hi, making an effort to make an appearance is half the battle. If you're ready to go out and meet someone new, there's nothing wrong with doing it the old fashioned way and meeting friends of friends. Even if you start chatting with a new acquaintance who isn't available, they might think you're a perfect match for one of their single friends.

One of the most important things is to make sure you present yourself in the best way possible. You want to be honest about who you are, but display confidence in what you present. If you love video games and horror films? Be the person who's ready to chat about a new release positively. Love animals? Then come prepared with a few cute pet photos to share with someone new.

One big tip? Avoid talking about your ex. We're at an age where everyone's likely got one, and any story you tell will just be a big warning to a potential match that you're not quite over them yet.

3 reasons you should try online dating

Decades ago, online dating was seen as somewhat of an embarrassing practice. These days, most people depend on it. If you're worried about somebody you know stumbling across your profile who you know professionally, don't worry — they're on there too, and they won't make you feel bad about finding a new relationship online.

There are three reasons why you should give online dating a shot.

1. It's the easiest way to meet new people. 

You can literally do it from the comfort of your own bed. All you need to do is swipe left or right to create a list of potential matches. You can also contact multiple people at once — and should, if you're ready to date.

2. It'll allow you to screen someone before you take the time to meet in person.

Gone are the days of blind dates. Now that everyone has some sort of digital footprint, you can be on the lookout for red flags before you even arrange a time to meet up. You'll be able to chat with your match about everything that you may feel is important before setting up a time to hang out in person. This will also make you feel more comfortable before arranging a physical date, since you can prep topics to talk about.

3. Many sites are free to try. 

A few of them require money to sign up, but most only cost more for add-on extras. That means that you can at least test out a few dating sites and apps without spending money, in case you're not fond of their format. Some of the most popular dating sites for those starting out include Match, Zoosk, and Eharmony. 

There are also certain dating sites for specific interests or religious preferences, like JDate, Christian Cafe, and Single And Sober. There are even sites out there that cater to pet lovers, frequent flyers, and those who need to live a gluten-free lifestyle. Whatever they are, you'll likely find a site that matches your interests.

How to get rid of dating anxiety for first dates

It's normal to feel a little anxious about a first date, especially if it's been some time since you've met somebody new that you have a connection with. The truth is, they're probably feeling the same way.

The best way to ease anxiety is to practice breathing and meditation. Proper breathing techniques are a free tool you can literally use anywhere, so you should use this as a good opportunity to master a few. In case that's not for you, you can also use a personal mantra to get you through the date.

Honesty is also really important. If you tell your date that you're a bit nervous, you'll feel as if you have nothing to hide. If they're legitimately a good match for you, they'll appreciate your openness and try to make you feel comfortable in the situation. That, or they'll help lead the conversation to put you at ease.

One thing you shouldn't do is have a drink or two before a date. Yes, it may loosen you up — but, if you go overboard, or manage to smell like alcohol prior to the start of your date, you may give off the wrong impression.

If you find that it's something you absolutely need to tame your anxiety, you might want to talk to your doctor and see if a prescription, or some therapy, will be a safer alternative that'll make the process a lot easier. You might not know that you've been living life in a harder mode than your friends if you have a lingering, undiagnosed issue with general anxiety.

First dates are often awkward, but second, third, and fourth dates are a lot easier. If you can get through this, you've battled the hardest part. Even if it doesn't end up working out, you're gaining practice on how to talk to people you may end up falling for.

Avoid the temptation of going back to your ex again

There's a reason why so many couples get back together — and it's not based on love. When you've been with a partner for a long time, you're just used to having them around. It's possible to feel miserable with someone, but even more miserable without them.

If the two of you have been separated for a month or more, enough time has passed for you to sugarcoat the reasons why you split. "There were bigger issues for you two to finally cut the cord," writers Sarah and Samantha from The Good Men Project state. "Those issues do not disappear after a breakup. Don’t sacrifice the things you want from a partner for someone who is just going to disappoint you again."

It's also possible that your ex won't leave you alone after breaking up, which is toxic behavior. Dating Coach Laurel House provided a video about how it's important to just get over your toxic ex and move forward. Even if it seems like things won't ever get better, they will once they're out of your life for good.

You may feel a little silly in calling them toxic, but the word is fitting. PsychCentral defines the term as someone who "create drama in their lives or be surrounded by it." Plenty of people split for that very reason. True love is challenging, but should never be dramatic. 

There are situations in which the two of you have both changed and managed to move forward. But, the likeliness is somewhat rare — especially if the breakup only happened this year. It's very easy to convince yourself that somebody has changed if they openly tell you they have. But the second your past issues have a chance to creep back into the relationship, you'll suddenly remember why you split in the first place. 

Even if it's tempting, remember — being in a bad, unhealthy relationship is a lot worse than being single. Being single, in itself, isn't a curse. According to Minou Clark from HuffPost, it's a great time where you can "truly learn to love yourself and your independence," which is incredible for personal growth. 

Final Thoughts

Yes, it's possible to get out there and date after a particularly bad breakup. The most important tool you need is a healthy sense of confidence, which may take some time to build. Don't rush it. If you're not ready to date, but you try and tell yourself otherwise, you'll be hurting both yourself and the person who genuinely thought you were a candidate for a longterm connection. 

It's also important to remember that while there are people out there with negative characteristics like your ex, all men or all women aren't set out to hurt you the same way. Sometimes, one particularly bad experience may turn you off of love altogether. But, you should never let someone who's simply incompatible with you control your entire view of dating. 

Be the best version of yourself and don't be too embarrassed or afraid to put yourself out there. Dating is literally a challenge for everyone, and there isn't anyone out there who's constantly been successful with it — which is why dating apps that boast multiple matches exist in the first place. 

Folllowing some of these guidelines will help you remember that life goes on. One positive thing about a toxic ex is that they'll help you realize the type of person you don't want to be with, which will make finding the right person even easier.

December 24, 2019

How To Get Over A Break Up: 12 Tips for Healing a Broken Heart

There isn’t any other way to describe it – breaking up with someone is a shock to your system.

Even if you weren’t in love with your relationship partner, splitting up with someone you’ve been attached to and have spent a considerable amount of time with can be hurtful and cause depression, stress, and confusion.

Feeling heartbroken after breaking up is just one side effect of a relationship split. Whether you were together for five years, a few months, or two weeks, breakups can leave you feeling hopeless and even cause physical illness and mental health issues.

While there isn’t a magic potion or formula that can eliminate the pain you’re experiencing, developing a way to cope is critical in releasing negative emotions associated with your ex and helping you move on to bigger and better things.

Whether you initiated the breakup or were on the receiving end, it’s essential to treat yourself afterward.

Giving yourself time to heal from all of the mental and emotional pain is always great advice, but there are ways you can speed up the process and take back control over your health and wellness while developing an inner strength you have never had before.

Getting Over An Ex You Still Love: 5 Tips To Stop Hurting

1. Write In Your Journal Or Talk It Out

Avoiding painful emotions will only cause more damage, in the long run, so facing your feelings immediately after a breakup is the quickest and most effective way to move past them.

As human beings, we have a natural impulse to run away from these painful feelings, but this avoidance will prevent us from ever releasing them. Feelings of anger, rejection, helplessness, sadness, and uncertainty about the future can leave us confused and lonely.

But it’s important to face these feelings head-on. Writing in your journal, speaking with a therapist, and venting with your closest friends and family members are all effective ways in coping with a break-up and helping you gain clarity on why the relationship didn’t work out as you expected.

Releasing painful emotions will eventually help you realize why you’re much better off without your ex.

2. Don’t Blame Yourself

Breaking up is hard enough when your self-esteem and confidence is diminished. Blaming yourself will only make things worse so it’s important to be compassionate towards yourself just the same as you would if a family member or close friend was experiencing heartbreak.

It’s common to ask yourself questions after a breakup about what went wrong, which forms a story that plays over and over in your head as you begin to analyze the good and bad times in the relationship.

Your immediate assumption might be that “you weren’t good enough” and that there was something “wrong with you,” but these are all self-deprecating thoughts and will only cause further damage post break up.

The stories we tell ourselves and the language we use shapes all outcomes in our lives, so it’s wise to be careful of the thoughts you think and the words you use.

Changing the narrative of your story will change the way that you face the emotional pain, and ultimately lead you to triumph through the situation.

3. Embracing The Pain You Experience: Will the Pain of a Breakup Go Away?

When handling a breakup, your immediate feeling may be avoidance since the pain can seem just too difficult to face. But there isn’t a way to recover from a breakup when you avoid the realities that come with it.

Rejection, abandonment, and feeling torn apart are all normal emotions, but by changing your perspective of dealing with breakup pain positively and constructively, you’ll begin to feel a sense of empowerment and strength that you’ve never experienced before.

Feel every emotion that you are going to feel, and embrace the anger, acceptance, and rejection to overcome. Always realize that the pain is temporary and the sun will always come back out after a rainstorm.

4. Stay Busy With Activities You Love

It can be difficult to be motivated about things you love after a bad breakup but getting yourself back out there and doing them anyway will reinforce positive emotions and get you back on track to loving yourself.

Caring for yourself and doing things you love is essential in healing post-split. Focus on hobbies and activities that make you smile and surround yourself with friends and family members who make you laugh and take your mind off things.

Breathe life into your world again by realigning with yourself and your purpose. Check out a new comedy club, go out for a night on the town with your friends, or even travel to a country that you’ve always wanted to go.

New experiences can lead to brand new clarity about your life, so when you are ready to join the dating scene again, you’ll be healed entirely and prepared for new love.

5. Take Care of Your Health (The Missing Key to Get Rid of a Broken Heart)

Getting your blood pumping by attending hot yoga sessions or cardio exercise or have been scientifically proven to lower stress levels, boost your mood, and improve your cognition.

Exercising might seem like the last thing on your mind, but the health benefits you experience is an excellent combination with the positive distraction from thinking about your ex. Get your head right and focusing on your body can be a secure anchor point in recovering from a breakup.

Going on a diet post-breakup is also a great idea, but you should be careful not to punish yourself and restrict calories or food intake because you are depressed.

Instead, focus on eating whole foods, proteins, and other nourishing foods that will help increase your mood and energy levels. A balanced diet with vegetables, fruits, and greens will help compensate for your stress.

What Should You Do After A Breakup? 7 Do’s and Don’ts 

1. Don’t Beg Your Ex To Get Back Together

Even if you miss your ex after breaking up, the last thing you want to do is beg or plead for another chance. It’s easy to confuse your feelings and motivations for wanting to get back together.

Ask yourself if you miss the person you were with, or if you miss the idea of having someone around. If the relationship was toxic, then it’s best to move on and find happiness within yourself before you start dating again.

2. Don’t Contact Other Exes For Comfort

When you feel lonely and miss having someone around, it’s very tempting to reach out to your old flames post-breakup.

In your mind, you are familiar with that person, they are familiar with you, and you once had a connection with them, so you think that you may be able to pick up where you left off.

But this is a significant mistake. Don’t allow your cravings to fill a physical and emotional void in your life lead you to contact someone from your past that didn’t work out the first time. There is a reason you two broke up in the first place.

3. Remove All Reminders of Your Ex

Getting rid of reminders will be one of the top ways to cope after a breakup. Remove social media pictures of your ex, trash the photos and items your ex left at your house, and reorganize your life, so there aren’t constant reminders that trigger old emotions.

Even if it’s difficult, you may also want to avoid familiar places you’ve visited, common friends in your circle who may bring up your ex, and family members who may bring up your breakup.

Starting fresh and adapting to being single is an essential part in recovering well from a bad break up.

4. Don’t Stalk Your Ex On Social Media

It’s wise to unfollow your ex on all social media platforms to prevent temptation in checking in on them.

Creating stories in your head based on your exes social media posts will make it more difficult for you in getting over your break up because it’s easy to misinterpret how miserable or happy someone is based on their social profiles.

Unfollowing family and friends of your ex and deleting any photos of you together is also a good idea.

It’s wise to unfollow your ex on all social media platforms to prevent temptation in checking in on them.

Creating stories in your head based on your exes social media posts will make it more difficult for you in getting over your break up because it’s easy to misinterpret how miserable or happy someone is based on their social profiles.

Unfollowing family and friends of your ex and deleting any photos of you together is also a good idea.

5. Don’t Call Or Text Your Ex

Out of habit, you may want to call or text your ex, but you must resist the urge of contacting them. Keep yourself busy and set a goal to not reach out to them for two weeks.

Once two weeks arrives, make another short goal to not contact them for another two weeks. Pretty soon it will be months since you last contacted them and you’ll realize your feelings are fading as time goes on and the new clarity you’ve gained from being out of contact.

6. Don’t Jump Into Another Relationship With The Next Person You Meet

When your heart is broken, and you feel vengeful, it’s easy to want to fill a void with another person immediately and remove the feeling of loneliness.

But it’s best to be single after a painful breakup so you can learn from your past relationship and not make the same mistakes as before.

History repeats itself, and if you don’t take the time to learn from previous relationships, then you are doomed to repeat history and likely get into another bad relationship.

7. Don’t Seek Out Revenge On Your Ex

Feeling rejected after being dumped can create a temptation to seek revenge on your ex for breaking your heart. You want your ex to feel the same painful emotions that you are, so what better way to do that then get revenge?

As great as it might seem, it’s never a good idea to cross the line when a relationship ends and become spiteful and vindictive to your former relationship partner.

Avoid spreading rumors or ruining their reputation with lies and trash talking them publicly. Take the high road and move on with class and dignity.

December 20, 2019

Breaking Up With Someone You Love Still

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I recently found myself in one of the most uncomfortable situations of my life during a couples’ counseling session. The counselor turned to my partner and me and asked us a seemingly simple question: What makes this relationship worth staying?

The answer should be obvious (or so I thought). I love my partner and have for years. I’ve spent nearly every single day of my life over the past decade by his side, experiencing all the highs and lows of life.

However, I quickly learned during that turbulent 50-minute counseling session that love isn’t the end-all, be-all for many relationships. In fact, there are many times when we must part ways with someone even when we love them.

But how can we break up with someone we love? And even more importantly, how can we do it in a way that avoids excessive heartache? And, if we do part ways with someone we love, is there ever a chance that we could reconnect later down the line?

Why dating immediately after a breakup is a bad idea

Let’s be real: We all feel loneliest immediately after a breakup. Once you finish binge-watching every rom-com available on Netflix, you might consider hitting the nightclub with your single friends or updating your Tinder profile. 

However, that’s one of the worst things you can do.

According to Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Eric Williams, loneliness can seriously cloud your dating judgment calls. When you feel lonely, Williams says that you “sacrifice your values and principles and overlook relationship deal breakers for the sake of not being lonely.” 

Also, when you jump right back into dating after a breakup, you more than likely don’t care about the person so much as the idea of a relationship. If you’re thinking about jumping back into a relationship, ask yourself one simple question: Am I interested in this person or do I just want a relationship?

If you’re just looking to hook up with someone to feel full or connected, try dating yourself first. Trust me, you and your future partner will both benefit from the time you invest in yourself during this critical juncture.

How long should you wait to start dating again?

So, we know that jumping right back into the water after calling it quits with your former partner isn’t the best choice, but how long is long enough?

Dr. Paulette Sherman, psychologist and author of Dating From The Inside Out, claims that “most people probably wait at least a month if they had a relationship that was at least a few months long.

If it was a more significant relationship then they may take longer, like three months or more, to start dating again.”

With that being said, you shouldn’t get hung up on a specific timeline. In fact, if you ask matchmaker Gina Yannotta of The Vida Consultancy, you should feel like you can maintain a positive mindset again before jumping back into the dating pool. 

As Yannotta says, “A positive mindset leads to positive behavior, which in turn increases your chances of a positive outcome.” 

Yannotta also recommends that you do some soul searching and know what went wrong with your previous relationship before bringing someone new into your life. “Take time to reflect on the attributes your ex had that worked for you and that didn’t. Repeat this exercise for all your exes. This will steer you towards a healthy, lasting relationship.”

The best thing you can do before you start dating again is to be honest with yourself. If you still feel heartbroken or find yourself still communicating with your ex, it’s not time to start dating someone new. 

However, if you feel comfortable and happy on your own, then chances are you’re ready to dip your toe into the dating pool once again.

How do you breakup with someone without hurting their feelings?

I know that breakups are never easy to navigate. When we still deeply care about someone, though, ending a relationship without hurting the other person can feel like an impossible task. Although many factors impact your decision to end a relationship, you can utilize these general guidelines to help you and your partner split amicably:

1. Have A Pre-Breakup Conversation

Relationship podcaster Laurel House recommends that you sit down for an open, candid conversation with your partner before you actually make a choice to split up. 

“You need to sit down and have a real, honest, calm, loving, but direct conversation about your relationship needs and gently, but honestly and again directly express which are not being fulfilled,” House says. 

She also recommends that you come up with a plan together with a timeline. If no changes happen within a month, then it’s time to call it quits.

2. Plan Ahead

Although you shouldn’t lead your partner on or give them false hope, you should take time to plan out your words in advance. Consider all of the logistics of the breakup, especially if you’ve been together for a long period of time, live together, or have children.

Emotions will likely be high when you start the breakup process, so having these important details mapped out in advance will help you through.

3. Always Breakup In Person

Electronic communication helps us feel less vulnerable, but it takes away body language and other critical components of serious conversations. That’s why many experts recommend that you always break up with someone in person. 

It’s important that both you and your partner experience the breakup as it happens, and doing so in person helps with that.

Ending the relationship for someone else

We all know that love is a complicated emotion. Unfortunately, that sometimes means that people can sometimes still love their partner even after the romance fizzles out. Instead of cheating on your partner or clinging to a partner who cheats on you, though, always break things off when another person becomes involved in the relationship.

woman crying after relationship ended

Author and palliative care nurse Bonnie Ware says one of the worst things you can do is live with regret. So, if you’ve found someone new or see apparent signs that your partner is, then it’s time to let go.

Sit down and have an honest, direct conversation with your partner and express your feelings and give them space to do the same. By doing this, you just might find that although you both love each other deeply, a romantic relationship is no longer the best choice for the two of you.

If you’re the one who found someone new, explain how that happened to your partner. Openly express any infidelity that occurred (or lack thereof if it didn’t), but don’t press your partner to forgive you. If your partner is the one who moved on, share your knowledge without making any accusations or attacks; just state the facts.

Finally, discuss any parameters on communication after the breakup. If you choose to remain friends, explore what that looks like and discuss any boundaries that you’d like to set. If you decide that friendship isn’t possible, then establish rules and boundaries for communication or situations where mutual friends are involved. It’s best to cover all the groundwork before saying goodbye for good.

Breaking up because of long distance

Although all of our internet gadgets make long-distance communication easier than ever before, maintaining long-distance relationships is a challenging task for most couples. In fact, nearly half of all long-distance relationships end in a breakup, and most only last about one-third as long as most other romantic relationships.

If you feel like your LDR isn’t working out, then plan a time to sit down over video chat and hash things out. And, for the most part, you can follow the same basic guidelines for an in-person breakup. 

The one positive about breaking up with someone you love because of distance is that you can each fully receive the space and time you need to heal. 

Set parameters on digital communication after the breakup (I recommend no contact for a bit), then let the tears flow. You’ll heal in time, I promise.

Calling it quits with someone you live with

Speaking from personal experience, calling it quits with your live-in partner can be one of the hardest breakup situations to navigate. On top of all the complicated emotions, you must also work out the countless logistical factors that come with living together. 

The first thing I recommend you do is to plan a firm move out date and establish your own spaces within the home or apartment during the breakup conversation. You’ll each want a safe space that you can retreat to when emotions rise, so it’s essential to establish these rules from the get-go. 

When it comes to splitting possessions and planning the actual moving process, don’t decide anything in the heat of the moment. According to psychologist and author Amy Morin, feelings “can lead you astray” if you’re not careful. So, allow a cooling-off period before you and your ex-partner make any decisions about splitting assets.

Finally, avoid the temptation to get back together or fool around with your partner while still living together. Sex complicates everything, and although some websites suggest that breakup sex is kinky, the reality is that it will leave both parties confused and even more emotional.

Breaking it off with a long-term relationship partner

The longer you spend with someone, the harder it is to let them go. We all grow complacent and we hate letting go. However, if you find yourself at an impasse with your partner or questioning if you should stay, then it’s time to break things off regardless of the history you share with your partner.

Obviously, the choice to end a long-term relationship is rarely a spur-of-the-moment choice for most of us. Although you could list many reasons for the split, life coach Matthew Hussey’s YouTube video on breakups recommends that you keep your grievances brief.

Furthermore, you want to remain calm and collected, but also acknowledge the extreme gravity of the situation. Even if you just say, “I know this is difficult,” your partner will feel like you care and, in turn, will receive your message more openly.

Woman putting head down after argument in park

Once you hash out all the details of the split, Getting Past Your Breakup author Susan J. Elliott recommends that you take a lengthy break from all forms of communication with your now ex. “This is part of the grieving process,” she says. “When your ex is still there, it stalls the process.”

Also, my personal bit of advice? Don’t hold back on sharing the news with friends and family — you’ll need their support to power through your heartache.

Is it normal for couples to break up and get back together?

During high school, I dated a guy on and off for two and a half years. At the time, I thought that our constant back and forth was a normal part of intimate relationships. And, as it turns out, I wasn’t wrong: a 2014 study at Kansas State University found that nearly 40 percent of couples experience that on-again, off-again relationship.

While many couples can power through a breakup and come back together stronger, others continue to split when times get tough, then run back to each other when conditions improve.

Relationship cycling — that constant on-again, off-again process — is never healthy for anyone. These relationships often lead to dissatisfied partners who can’t work through problems. If you find yourself in this situation, it’s best to break the cycle sooner than later.

What percentage of breakups get back together?

Relationship cycling aside, researchers Sarah Halpern-Meekin, Wendy Manning, Peggy Giordano, and Monica Longmore found that nearly 50 percent of couples experience one breakup during the lifetime of their relationship. So, if you feel a breakup is needed but still hold feelings for your partner, there’s a 50-50 chance you could later end up together again.

Reasons your breakup is the best thing for you

Although the reality is hard to face, there are times when breaking ties with a partner is ultimately the best thing for you. Even if you love your significant other, here are some reasons why you should end the relationship immediately:

  • There’s infidelity from either party
  • You’re constantly fighting over small, petty matters
  • Your lives are going in entirely different directions
  • Sex is the only reason you’re still together
  • Your partner is displaying abusive behaviors or you fear for your safety

Although the heartache may sting for a while, once you move on, you’ll eventually feel a bit lighter. If one (or more) of my previously mentioned points is happening in your relationship, then chances are you feel unhappy and even a bit trapped. Letting go will ultimately lead you down the path you’re meant to be on and alleviate the stress you feel.

Can true love survive a breakup?

I always hated the phrase, “If you love something set it free. If it comes back it's yours. If not, it was never meant to be.” However, many people wonder if their love can survive a breakup and look to this phrase for inspiration.

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According to Sheri Meyers, a clinical psychologist and author of Chatting or Cheating, “If you choose to try again [after a breakup], you both know that your hearts are really in the right place. And that's a great foundation from which to build a new relationship.”

When you really love someone, you accept them despite their flaws. And if you experience someone during the throws of a breakup and still want to try again, that’s likely a sign that you truly love the person.

Also, chances are that if you’re willing to give your ex another shot, they’ve made some sort of radical changes. And, more than likely, these changes involved the exact problems that caused you to split to begin with.

How do you know when a relationship is really over permanently?

Even if you decide to break things off with your significant other, it’s hard to know if your relationship is really over or just “on a break.” According to psychologist Suzanne Degges-White, though, there are a few clear signs that your relationship has hit its natural end. 

According to Degges-White, all relationships experience highs and lows. With that being said, there’s a huge difference between a lull and a real issue. If you find yourself continually resenting your partner, avoiding all contact with them, or seeing no trace of them in your aspirations, then things are probably over for good.

Once you split, you’ll also find more signs that the relationship has run its course. If you find that after six months you’re happier and healthier than you were with your partner, you’re excited when someone compliments you, or you’re making long-term plans, then chances are you’ve successfully moved on.

Final Thoughts

Sometimes love can blind us to the point where we don’t even realize that our relationship is no longer benefiting anyone. What’s more, humans thrive on consistency, and long-term partners can provide that in our lives.

However, I’ve learned the hard way that even when you truly love someone staying together isn’t always the best choice for you or your partner. 

It’s important to always be honest with yourself and your partner when your heart starts feeling heavy during the course of your relationship. In fact, honest, vulnerable conversations can ultimately help you end relationships on good terms.

And although it may seem impossible, time heals all wounds. You can always still love someone and care about them in a completely platonic way without continuing an unhealthy romantic relationship with them.

If your gut tells you that it’s time to end your relationship, then it’s probably right. Take some time to think things over, but at the end of the day, trust your heart to lead you in the right direction. Your happiness is ultimately the most important thing in life — even if that means breaking up with someone you love.

December 18, 2019

Millionaire Match Review (Updated for 2020)

Recommended Age


Number of Members

4 Million

Sign Up

10 Minutes

For Singles Seeking

Serious Relationships







5.0 / 5.0

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4.8 / 5.0

4.9 / 5.0

I've looked at so many dating sites, and while many of them seemed great for other people, they didn't match up with what I wanted. My hope had always been to find love with someone with the same values, both financially and relationship-wise.

It was likely my determination mixed with some good fortune that brought me to Millionaire Match. This site speaks its truth in its name, giving users a straightforward and even fun way to find a partner who views financial stability as a priority. The cream of the crop of online dating candidates seems to flock to Millionaire Match.

Nothing about using Millionaire Match is complicated, but the site still did a great job of making me feel special to be among its ranks. Something I really loved about using this site is it wasn't created for the typical sugar baby/sugar daddy arrangements.

Although some members don't mind this, a large portion of the members here want a genuine connection and companionship with someone who just so happens to value money as much as they do.

Although I'm not on the site anymore, being able to use Millionaire Match was a big blessing for my dating life. I was able to find love with someone who cares for me and matches my career-oriented, financially conscious values. 

Through this guide, I hope to show you why Millionaire Match is either the perfect site for you, or not for you at all. Here's my experience.

Key Features

  • "First Date Ideas" gives members the ability to share first date ideas and other paying users will be able to leave their comments on it. Try your best to be as creative as possible. Dinner and a movie can be nice, but surely there's something more interesting you can consider.
  • "Members Luxuries" is where you highlight the material goods that you cherish so much. Don't worry about feeling boastful. You should be proud of all your success and the ability to share it with others. Millionaire Match is for people with values as well as valuables.
  • "Member Forum" is an excellent environment for communicating with the other members of the site and getting clear answers to any inquiries.
  • "MillionaireMatch Blog" is a place you can submit your own blog posts to talk about whatever you think is important.


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  • 2,600,000 American members
  • 2,700 logins per day
  • 50% male : 50% female
  • More than 4 million members around the world
  • Certified millionaire groups
  • Gorgeous and professional users
  • High activity among users
  • Authenticity check for profiles

Millionaire Match isn't one of the most-frequented match sites, but it is considered one of the best millionaire dating websites because the membership clientele is highly desirable. Many people are impressed by how good-looking the candidates are. This further adds to the desirability of these users. 

Furthermore, you don't have to worry about any profiles being fraudulent. Millionaire Match diligently makes sure profiles are real with phone verifications and other authenticity checks.

The gender breakdown is another plus of Millionaire Match, as it's pretty even between men and women.

In the U.S., there are about 2.6 million members, which is increased to about 3.8 million when you factor in global users. There's also a Certified Millionaires group, which mainly features men.

However, female users definitely make the most of their Millionaire Match experience. These members often frequent the Forum and Blog area of the site.

On Millionaire Match, you can assemble with people who are confident and successful and who will help you feel the same.

Sign Up (Millionaire Match Free Trial)

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  • Fast signup process (10 minutes)
  • Facebook registration available
  • Must include profile photo
  • Feature to help you build profile
  • Phone and email verification required

It's an easy and swift process to sign up for Millionaire Match, and you can get your initial account going without paying anything. 

There's also the ability to sign up via Facebook. Phone and email verification are required, as is having a profile picture.

All in all, it takes about 10 minutes to join Millionaire Match, which can be reduced further if you have experience with signing up with these sorts of sites.

The information you'll be prompted to include is very straightforward. Once this is completed, you can work on finding the right profile photo.

To complete your profile, you'll be writing some descriptive paragraphs to help other users see if you're a good match. You might consider drafting this before you start signing up. Do your best to speak from the heart and portray yourself as you really are.


  • Excellent authenticity check
  • All users can see profiles
  • All users can see member photos free
  • Photo verification badges available
  • Certified Millionaire badges available
  • Profiles are very detailed

Millionaire Match profiles are very well made and give you the information you most want to know. These profiles are broken down via four unique tabs.

These include, in order, general user facts and other details, such as looks, hobbies, and what different site users have said.

When you
look at Millionaire Match profiles, you won't have to be concerned with coming across an array of fake profiles. The site is operated by people who stress authenticity. 

Anyone who tries to pass off an inauthentic profile will swiftly find themselves banned from Millionaire Match.

To help gain user's trust in you and your profile, you can work to receive the verified badge. All you have to do is posting a piece of valid identification.

If you're a millionaire and want to provide proof, there's the ability to receive a Certified Millionaire verification badge. Millionaire Match takes many sound routes towards ensuring trust with its users.

Making Contact

  • Need premium account for sending messages
  • "Let's Meet" feature
  • Up to 50 winks per day allowed
  • Many search features
  • You can favorite profiles as you browse
  • Respond to received messages for free

Unlike other sites that restrict all forms of messaging to paid users, Millionaire Match at least allows you to reply to messages as a free user.

However, being able to send messages is a privilege for those with premium access. There are also several good ways to find users and show your interest in them.

With the "Let's Meet" feature, you'll be going through different users at once and seeing which are your cup of tea. There's also the ability to send "winks," to show that you like someone, after which you might add them to your favorites list.

Should there be specific things you want from a partner, you can use their excellent search function.

If you've got any questions about reaching out on Millionaire Match, you can make use of their blogs and forums for easy access to answers.

The community is very friendly and quite helpful. Millionaire Match understands the true meaning of value when it comes to online dating.

MillionaireMatch Costs & Pricing

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You can have a decent time with Millionaire Match as a free user thanks to things like being able to reply to messages and get help via the live chat feature.

However, the paid version of the site offers so many more advantages. When you have a Millionaire Match Gold Membership, you'll see why this is one of the best dating sites.

Along with standard things like being able to see if messages have been read and better search options, a Gold Membership lets you do unique things like replying to a user's first date ideas and talking with a Millionaire Match counselor.

Additionally, the prices for these services aren't too bad, considering the excellent quality of the site.

For a month, Gold Membership costs $70. This is reasonable considering the quality of the site's members and authenticity checks.

However, it's far better when you sign up for three months, which costs $45 per month, or six months, which costs $40 per month. 

If you're a millionaire yourself, you'll definitely be able to afford that. Plus, you can earn a "Certified Millionaire" badge in the process.

Pros and Cons


  • Millionaire focus
  • Free accounts
  • Great premium features
  • Many ways to show you're interested in someone
  • High rate of success
  • Excellent Mobile App
  • Strong Profile Verification Checks


  • Lack of match suggestions
  • More costly than other mainstream sites

The Bottom Line:

You don't just stumble into a site like Millionaire Match. This site is populated by people who know precisely what they desire, and with some persistence, they can get it.

You might've previously tried to express your millionaire-seeking status on sites but have become jaded by a lack of success. With Millionaire Match, you can feel optimistic again.

There's no concern about people pretending to be millionaires, as Millionaire Match has a superb verification process. Plus, the "Certified Millionaire" badge makes things even more apparent. The users are also real catches, with tons of charisma and lots of attractive features.

Whether you're looking for a millionaire or are one yourself, Millionaire Match could be the dating site for you. It doesn't take too long to
sign up, and navigating the site is a total breeze. 

Put your money, effort, and time into Millionaire Match, and you'll see why it's such an excellent and enriching site to find like-minded individuals.

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December 18, 2019

Best American Dating Sites Reviewed (Updated for 2020)

You want to find a relationship, companionship, or anything in between. Online dating is likely something you've considered, but you might have some skepticism about it.

It might seem like it's too hard to get to know someone via this process or the sites aren't trustworthy.

While it's true that online dating takes work, and not all sites are created equal, the positive aspects of this experience have helped to forge many lasting relationships.

If you have even a moderately-wide social network, you should know several couples who met through online dating.

The best online dating sites also have great paid membership options. They give you plenty of ways to find a potential partner, and they make it easy to navigate their websites. If you have any issues, they'll be able to help you resolve them in a very transparent manner.

Some sites are specialized, which helps anyone who is looking for something particular in their partner or who has specific needs they want to be met.

These sites can be used by pretty much anyone. They've all become quite popular for various reasons. This guide will help you to determine which of these sites is right for you.

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  • Strong Profile Verification
  • Ideal for Professionals

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  • Secure Messaging
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1. Elite Singles

With a name like Elite Singles, you would hope that you're getting the cream of the crop for online dating candidates.

Well, you know that you're a catch, right? There are also all kinds of intriguing people you can find on here. The site also puts quite a lot of emphasis on ensuring authenticity among users.

Instead of letting profiles flow through without any guarantee about their authenticity, the team behind Elite Singles goes through every profile to make sure it's legitimate.

This way, you can explore the site without feeling like you're about to be duped by phony profiles. They also get rid of defunct profiles and apparent jokes.

You can find suitable matches on this site based on the sophistication of their questionnaire. Be sure to answer these as honestly as possible, as you don't want to be matched with anyone who you can't click with.

They take a psychological approach to matching, which allows matches to be made through meaningful considerations, not shallow ones.

If you want to get any real mileage out of EliteSingles, you'll need to sign up for a paid membership. This is the only way to be able to see pictures of your matches and exchange messages with them.

You can purchase memberships for periods of three, six, and 12 months. Be advised that these renew automatically at the end of each cycle.

EliteSingles takes its name very seriously. They want to give their users a sense of trustworthiness in their service.

This is likely why they've been able to provide their users with so much satisfaction. For a first-rate online dating experience, consider joining EliteSingles.

Gender Ratio Breakdown

Recommended Age


Number of Members

15 Million

Sign Up

35 Minutes

For Singles Seeking

Long-Term Commitment


  • Sophisticated Matching
  • Strong Profile Verification
  • Ideal for Professionals


  • Limited Without Paid Membership
  • Longer Profile Setup

2. Match

One of the most famous dating sites for clients of any race, has secured a reputation for helping clients fall in love.

After more than 20 years in business, Match continues to be part of linking singles together. If you're looking for a place to start on your online dating journey, Match is an excellent choice.

Users can use to find others based on various preferences, such as how old they are, their gender, and anything else they consider important.

They also cater to different needs in terms of sexual orientation. With a large user base of more than 8 million premium members, has something for everyone, including black singles.

It's quite easy to get used to Starting a profile is very straightforward.

You can include as many as 26 photos. Filling out your profile with as much information as you can is very important, as it will help you to reach more people.

You should also be searching around for profiles of others that catch your attention.

Upon finding someone intriguing, you can start messaging with them.

You don't have to worry about your personal information getting out, as makes sure to keep all of that secure.

The ease of navigation and friendly design are just a couple of reasons why has been such a big deal.

Gender Ratio Breakdown

Recommended Age


Number of Members

28 Million

Sign Up

25 Minutes

For Singles Seeking

Serious Relationships


  • Easy Sign-Up
  • Secure Messaging
  • Ability to Post Multiple Photos


  • Number of Matches Vary By Location
  • Higher Cost

3. Zoosk

Zoosk's name isn't one that immediately reveals itself as being a dating site. However, this unconventionally named site has become known as an excellent place to start a relationship.

Like and EliteSingles, Zoosk is all about creating bonds through precise matching. You can use all sorts of features to help you find that special someone.

Their sophisticated "Search" feature allows you to easily look around the site for someone who strikes your fancy. You can also use "Online Now" to find out who's free to talk at the present moment.

Those who want to go through a lot of matches at once will want to use "Carousel." This is similar to the swiping features of other online dating services.

Other features include SmartPick, which helps to give you the most nuanced matches, while "Super Send" acts as an email blast for reaching out to different matches.

If you can't find the perfect match right away on Zoosk, there are a myriad of other things to try.

Choosing to upgrade to a paid membership can make your Zoosk experience even more rewarding. The Premium Messaging feature lets you exchange messages with users, regardless of whether or not they have a subscription.

The Hide, Seek and Sneak features let you browse anonymously and give you more control over who sees your profile.

Zoosk gives users quite a lot in its basic form, but the paid membership features are much worthwhile.

To better your chances of success, it's hugely beneficial to use these features. Put yourself out there and see how much your efforts pay off.

Gender Ratio Breakdown

Recommended Age

25 - 45

Number of Members

35 Million

Sign Up

15 Minutes

For Singles Seeking



  • Multiple Matching Tools
  • Strong Customer Service
  • Sophisticated Matching System


  • Activation Fee
  • Limited Search Options

4. eHarmony

eHarmony is one of the most important sites in the history of online dating. Their focus on marriage helped to show that online dating wasn't just limited to hookups or brief relationships.

Members who use eHarmony do so because they believe strongly in their ability to find someone right for them for life. The steady rate of marriages that have started with eHarmony gives credence to their site's focus.

The longstanding reputation of eHarmony means that you should be able to find plenty of people to talk with.

However, before you reach that point, you'll need to fill out the personality tests and answer the questions provided. This will let the site know what sort of matches are ideal for you. Take your time with this, and take a break if necessary.

While messaging is available for all members, you need to purchase a premium membership if you want to craft messages yourself.

Additionally, premium membership also lets you get in touch with more people instead of being limited to matches that the site has designed for you.

On profiles, you can determine how well suited a match is for you based on "compatibility." This is a reflection of the answers you and your potential match had given when you started your respective profiles.

Keep the compatibility in mind, but don't let it be the only thing you consider.

If you're still dreaming of finding the perfect someone, eHarmony is here to help make your dream come true. Put as much into your profile as possible, and keep as optimistic as you can.

So many others have been able to find their beloved spouse through this site. Why not you?

Gender Ratio Breakdown

Recommended Age


Number of Members

18 Million

Sign Up

15 Minutes

For Singles Seeking

Serious Relationships


  • Marital Focus
  • Detailed Profile Information
  • Compatibility  Test


  • Not for Casual Dating
  • Limited Messaging Options Without Paid Membership

5. BeNaughty

BeNaughty is a long way from eHarmony or It's based on all kinds of experiences, including hookups and group encounters. If you're looking for something lasting, look elsewhere.

However, if you're looking to have some fun or to spice up a current relationship by bringing others into the fold, this could be the right online dating site for you.

BeNaughty has a gender breakdown that is majority female. However, people of different genders and orientations can find something through BeNaughty.

Signing up is very quick, and you can include as much as you deem necessary. You need to make sure that you have a good photo which doesn't go against any of their guidelines.

You need to purchase a premium membership if you want to see beyond profile pictures. You can reach out to users through direct messaging or through the chatroom. Messaging is provided at no cost for female members.

Even though BeNaughty might have a more casual design that other sites, you need to maintain absolute respect for all members you reach out to.

A casual encounter might turn into something more permanent. But it's best to focus on just having fun and not worrying too much.

Gender Ratio Breakdown

Recommended Age


Number of Members


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15 Minutes

For Singles Seeking

Hookups & Casual Encounters


  • Great Casual Encounters
  • Adventurous Fun for Couples
  • Strong Profile Verification


  • Not for Casual Relationships
  • Paid Version Required For Men To Send Messages

Editors Conclusion

All of these sites have different advantages and disadvantages. However, they each cover different needs for different people.

You can browse each of these sites and figure out fairly quickly if a website is right for you. Make a list of dating site preferences and compare it to this list to see which one is best for you.

Sometimes, you might find yourself debating between two sites. There's nothing wrong with signing up for more than one site at a time.

If you have the financial means and time to do so, you can figure out more thoroughly which site is best for you.

However, if you're looking for which one we'd recommend the most, we would have to say
Elite Singles. The site is excellent for people who are looking for dating and/or marriage. 

You can also make a profile in a reasonable amount of time while also giving visitors plenty of insights about you.

Give online dating a shot if you're sick of being single. The only way you can find love is by putting yourself out there, and online dating allows you to do this in the easiest possible way.

Stay diligent with updating your profile and reaching out to matches.

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October 7, 2019

AsianDate Review (Updated for 2020)

Recommended Age

20 - 45

Number of Members

1.6 Million

Sign Up

2 Minutes

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4.0 / 5.0

4.9 / 5.0

5.0 / 5.0

Going through online dating can be agonizing, and you don't need to go on a single bad date to see this truth. There are lots of poor quality websites out there, which can make you feel like a cruel joke is being played on you. Other times, it can feel like you're not-so-secretly excluded from participating.

I've been in your shoes before. As an Asian woman, I felt like most popular dating sites were designed for other people. I was having such a hard time finding people who were interested in me and vice-versa. However, when I felt like I was at wit's end, I was told about AsianDate.

My faith in online dating was restored thanks to AsianDate. I know that might sound like an exaggeration, but this site is that good. It's a great site to use and has a lot of communication features. Through AsianDate, I can honestly say that I've met someone I've fallen in love with.

With this review, I'll give you all the information you need about AsianDate. I'll tell you about the features and why you should or shouldn't pay for different services. Although this site isn't meant for everyone, it can be a great thing for anyone looking for love. 

Key Features

  • "3 Way Call with Interpreter" With this assistance, you can help clear up any miscommunication that could occur due to not being fluent in the same languages. Since there's another person on the line, you might not want to talk about sensitive topics.
  • "Virtual Gifts" send the lady you're interested in a virtual gift. While these might not be tangible, they can still make the other person feel that you really putting forth the effort in letting them know your interest. 
  • "Actual Gift Delivery" Show an extra level of interest in your lady by buying actual gifts which will be delivered within 3-5 days. You'll get a notification as soon as the order is successfully delivered, and will be sent a photo of the woman with the gift.


  • 1.6 million members (from United States)
  • 4,000 people online per day
  • 25% male : 75% female
  • Only female accounts shown in search
  • Members focused on relationships
  • Many Asian nations represented
  • High activity among users

By far, the most significant gender representation on AsianDate is for women. It can even be a struggle to find any male profiles. If you're a man looking for Asian women to date, you're going to get the most out of AsianDate.

Another interesting aspect of the site is how making a profile is exclusive for men, but only women profiles are found when searching. There's also a lot of national diversity, as the female profiles come from various countries around Asia.

If you find someone you enjoy speaking with, you'll find that they've been saved, along with anyone else you've had a conversation with.

Some have voiced suspicion about whether some profiles on AsianDate are genuine.

Whenever you interact with someone, you should be looking for any clues that their profile or messages might not be real, such as robotic phrasing and asking for sensitive information. Otherwise, you can find someone great through AsianDate.

  • Fast signup process (1-2 min)
  • Can sign up through Google
  • Verification of email required

You don't need much time to sign up for AsianDate. If you are familiar with simple email verification, you can have your account ready to go in under three minutes.

Depending on how you want to go about it, you can use Google to join or enter your email and other essential information.

Once you're done signing up, you'll be brought to the different profiles of available Asian women. The site gives you a lot of women to choose from, so you might feel excited very quickly.

If you're looking to start talking to someone soon, you can speak to them via different chat options.

To guarantee that you're not a robot, you'll need to verify your email. This adds almost no time to the already-fast process of joining AsianDate. It's a total snap to sign up for this site and a pleasure to see all of the different women's profiles.


  • Members are allowed to put have customized messages on their profile
  • Women's profile photos are of model quality
  • No cost to look at profiles
  • Profile photos and info can be added or changed later
  • Very detailed and informative profiles

When you look at AsianDate, you might find some profiles that are full of information, but that doesn't mean you have to make yours particularly detailed.

If you're in a rush and don't have time to include photos or any real descriptions right away, you can come back and add it later. You can also look at profile photos, regardless of membership level.

Female users have in-depth profiles. You'll be able to gather a lot of information and see some great photos. Many of these photos are professional quality, which helps to highlight just how attractive these members are.

You can have barely anything in your profile and start getting messages sent in droves. This can create some skepticism about whether the messages are real.

You should read these as closely as possible and delete any that immediately strike you as being fake. Through proper discretion, you can find legitimate profiles on AsianDate.

Making Contact

  • Live chat and cam share are for paying members
  • No charge for searching profiles
  • Chatroom 
  • 3 way call with interpreter

Lots of good communication methods are on AsianDate. The site understands how many members are separated by countries, if not continents, and it comes through for them by helping to make it easier to get in touch.

You will need to pay for some of these features, but they'll help you see the value of such membership.

It doesn't cost anything to send initial messages. However, if you wish to keep communicating, you'll need to purchase credits.

If you don't have a paid account, you can get letters from users, and it doesn't cost anything to be able to read them. You'll need to use ten credits if you want to respond to these letters.

If you really want to get to know someone, setting up a phone call is a pretty sure bet. It costs 100 credits for this, and you'll have an interpreter on the line to help with any language barriers. Your conversation must last 10 minutes or longer.

AsianDate Costs & Pricing

If you want a satisfying experience with AsianDate, you'll have to invest some money.

You won't be signing up for a premium membership, as this site functions via the use of credits. You can purchase these 20, 160, and 1,000 at a time.

With credits, you'll be able to do things like responding to letters you've received, use messaging via text and webcam, and even get on a phone call with help from an interpreter.

You can also send digital as well as physical gifts, such as flowers. If you just have a free account, you can read letters and look at another user's profile.

Prices for the paid privileges can vary. If you want to use AsianDate for a while, you might decide it's best to shell out $399 for 1,000 credits.

On the other hand, if you want to take things slowly, starting out with just 20 credits is perfectly understandable.

Pros and Cons


  • Lots of woman members from different Asian countries
  • 2 minutes to signup
  • Many ways to show you're interested in someone
  • Free to browse profiles
  • 3 way call with interpreter feature
  • No monthly membership. Purchase credits


  • Live chat and cam share only for paying members
  • Narrowing down users can take time

The Bottom Line:

There are some great aspects to this site, such as its niche design and ease of use, and majority of the profiles are legitimate. 

Some things could be better about AsianDate, such as their ability to totally remove any fake profiles. But realistically, no dating site can totally remove fake profiles. Asian Date does a great job at weeding out fake profiles so you only talk to real women. 

Since many women you may meet live in a different place, you may have to accept that you'll have a long-distance relationship for a little while. If you want to be close to anyone you meet on the site then  AsianDate might not be best for you.

However don't let that stop you! Many members opt to travel and see their partner to be close and remove the distance. And this temporary distance can even be the best thing everyone. You have time to develop a real connection before any physical interaction. 

All in all, AsianDate doesn't require too much of a commitment. For instance, you don't have to have a membership and can buy credits based on what you want to do. For meeting Asian women, AsianDate can be a great online dating site for you.

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